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I have a bit of a problem, and taking it here to AW is, in my opinion, the perfect place to get advice.
My boyfriend has been facing depression on and off for the whole time we've been dating. It's starting to get really bad- he's talking suggestively about suicide, he's becoming very distant, he's in a bad financial situation and due to college, he's kind of stuck int he position he's in right now. I've offered to help him financially, I've offered to let him take up an apartment with me when I go to switch colleges in a few months, I've tried to talk with him and offer him help, as have the rest of his family, and he just keeps getting more distant.
I dealt with pretty severe depression years back- it got so bad I tried to kill myself on a few occasions and was hospitalized for such. I know how he's feeling and I'm trying to offer him good advice, but he's just keeps shutting me out. It doesn't matter how nicely, sneakily, politely, of sympathetically I bring it up. I remember a lot of the feelings I had when I was depressed- whenever someone would call me out on my depression, I would feel guilty, like I was taking a toll on their lives or that everyone thought I was more sick than I was (even though they were right). I tried to keep my relationships going, but due to my mentality, they all began to fail. I'm trying so hard to talk with him about it in a way that won't make things worse, but every time I try, it just makes him more distant.
It's starting to take a toll on our relationship. I don't want to leave him stranded and dealing with this problem on his own, but he's almost leaving me no choice. He's not letting me or anyone else help him out, he's becoming so distant with everyone that it's affecting friendships, relations with family, and the relationship that I have with him.
When I was facing depression head on, I was pushed over the edge very easily. I broke up with anyone I was dating if they pressed me to hard, I lost a lot of friends, and family gave up on me. I don't want to push him so hard that he feels like he has to break up with me (even though, if things don't get better, I'm starting to consider breaking it off with him, just because he will not let anyone reach him), I don't want him to lose the great friends he has, and I don't want to break up with him and just leave him to deal with this problem on his own.
What do I do to help him out? The way he acts leads me to believe he's on the brink of a potential suicide attempt, and if I'm correct, the situation may be touchier than he's letting on. I want nothing more than to help him get better, but he's keeps refusing any sort of help no matter how the matter's brought up. How do I deal with this?
My boyfriend has been facing depression on and off for the whole time we've been dating. It's starting to get really bad- he's talking suggestively about suicide, he's becoming very distant, he's in a bad financial situation and due to college, he's kind of stuck int he position he's in right now. I've offered to help him financially, I've offered to let him take up an apartment with me when I go to switch colleges in a few months, I've tried to talk with him and offer him help, as have the rest of his family, and he just keeps getting more distant.
I dealt with pretty severe depression years back- it got so bad I tried to kill myself on a few occasions and was hospitalized for such. I know how he's feeling and I'm trying to offer him good advice, but he's just keeps shutting me out. It doesn't matter how nicely, sneakily, politely, of sympathetically I bring it up. I remember a lot of the feelings I had when I was depressed- whenever someone would call me out on my depression, I would feel guilty, like I was taking a toll on their lives or that everyone thought I was more sick than I was (even though they were right). I tried to keep my relationships going, but due to my mentality, they all began to fail. I'm trying so hard to talk with him about it in a way that won't make things worse, but every time I try, it just makes him more distant.
It's starting to take a toll on our relationship. I don't want to leave him stranded and dealing with this problem on his own, but he's almost leaving me no choice. He's not letting me or anyone else help him out, he's becoming so distant with everyone that it's affecting friendships, relations with family, and the relationship that I have with him.
When I was facing depression head on, I was pushed over the edge very easily. I broke up with anyone I was dating if they pressed me to hard, I lost a lot of friends, and family gave up on me. I don't want to push him so hard that he feels like he has to break up with me (even though, if things don't get better, I'm starting to consider breaking it off with him, just because he will not let anyone reach him), I don't want him to lose the great friends he has, and I don't want to break up with him and just leave him to deal with this problem on his own.
What do I do to help him out? The way he acts leads me to believe he's on the brink of a potential suicide attempt, and if I'm correct, the situation may be touchier than he's letting on. I want nothing more than to help him get better, but he's keeps refusing any sort of help no matter how the matter's brought up. How do I deal with this?