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Southern_girl29
08-14-2008, 03:27 AM
A few weeks ago, I posted a thread asking for positive thoughts for the baby I was carrying, since our test results came back with a one in 10 chance of the baby having Trisomy18. It turned out that the baby had it, and she was a girl. Trisomy 18 is a chromosome disorder where the baby has three chromosome 18s,instead of two. The most common Trisomy is Down's Syndrome, but Trisomy 18 is not compatible with life.

After we found out, we decided to name her, and when my little girl suggested Jenna Grace, we decided to go with that. We knew Tessa wouldn't get to know her, so we thought this was a way to let her in on all of it.

On Monday, I found out through ultrasound that Jenna had passed away. She was born yesterday. We will be having a memorial service for Aug. 24. I'm doing ok. I know she wouldn't have been able to have any quality of life had she lived, and she will not suffer.

I do want to think everyone for the positive thoughts a few weeks ago.

JoNightshade
08-14-2008, 03:29 AM
Oh, gosh, SG, I'm so sorry. :(

Will lift you up at our dinnertime prayers tonight.

:Hug2:

Cranky
08-14-2008, 03:31 AM
I'm so sorry, SG.

My prayers for you, your angel, and the rest of your family as well.

:Hug2:

WendyNYC
08-14-2008, 03:36 AM
I'm sorry for your loss, SG.

Mandy-Jane
08-14-2008, 03:39 AM
Oh Southern girl I'm so sorry to hear all of this. It isn't fair. I've just read your blog entry about it. I wish it hadn't worked out this way. I thought the part about Jenna wearing the lovely little pink dress was beautiful.

Thank goodness that you have your precious little Tessa. I can imagine that she is a great comfort to you at a time like this.

Thinking of you......

stormie
08-14-2008, 03:40 AM
No matter what chromosome abnormality she had, she was still your little baby. What you did, having your daughter, Tessa, name her, was a great idea. I pray for you for the strength, as you will never forget baby Jenna Grace, and will mourn her. You may never get over it, but you WILL get through this.

Also, rest a lot now, if you can. It will help you in the long run.

Jersey Chick
08-14-2008, 03:44 AM
I'm so sorry, SG... I know this has been a horribly rough time for you, but what you've been through took so much guts and so much love... I've written and rewritten this post a half dozen times but there just aren't any words that seemed right. Just know we're thinking of you and your family...

:Hug2:

wyntermoon
08-14-2008, 03:48 AM
I'm so sorry, honey, there are no words to express it.

soleary
08-14-2008, 03:48 AM
SG, Please accept my heart felt condolences. You and your family are firmly in my prayers.

JLCwrites
08-14-2008, 04:00 AM
:Hug2: My thoughts and prayers are with you. My heart is aching with this news. I am certain heaven is a brighter place now that Jenna is there.
(Extra hugs)

Soccer Mom
08-14-2008, 04:06 AM
I hope that knowing that she won't suffer gives you some peace now. I'm so sorry for all you and your family have been through.

Hugs and love.

Ol' Fashioned Girl
08-14-2008, 04:19 AM
I'm so sorry, SG. We'll light a special pink candle just for Jenna Grace tonight... and a soft blue one for you and Tessa and Southern Boy.

Susie
08-14-2008, 04:35 AM
Oh, Southern our hearts go out to you and your family. We're so sorry. You're a special lady and prayers and good thoughts are sent your way. If you want to write me, I'm here for you. :Hug2:

MsK
08-14-2008, 04:40 AM
Oh Southern Girl, so sad to hear that news. *hugs* and prayers for you and your family.

Stew21
08-14-2008, 04:56 AM
My heart is broken for you. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Haggis
08-14-2008, 04:58 AM
You're in my thoughts and prayers, SG.

joyce
08-14-2008, 05:02 AM
:Hug2:I'm so sorry to hear about this SG. I'm glad she won't be suffering, but I'm sure you must be filled with sorrow. I hope your heart heals soon. You are in my thoughts.

caromora
08-14-2008, 05:03 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll keep you in my prayers.

tjwriter
08-14-2008, 05:04 AM
So sorry to hear about your loss. Hug your family tonight for all of us.

MelodyO
08-14-2008, 05:07 AM
SG, what sad news. I hope our thoughts and prayers help you find strength at such a trying time. Many hugs to you and your family.

rugcat
08-14-2008, 05:08 AM
That is so sad. Truly wishing the best for you in a difficult, difficult time.

reigningcatsndogs
08-14-2008, 05:11 AM
Sending prayers for you and your family and your sweet little Jenna. This is heartbreaking.

smoothseas
08-14-2008, 05:12 AM
Tell Tessa that she picked out the most beautiful name ever...

WildScribe
08-14-2008, 05:17 AM
Bless you and your sweet little Jenna.

czjaba
08-14-2008, 05:17 AM
Oh SG, I'm so sorry to hear about this. You and your family are in my prayers. Hugs sent your way.

Beach Bunny
08-14-2008, 05:45 AM
I'm sorry to hear about your loss, SG. Prayers and good thoughts for you and your family.

SherryTex
08-14-2008, 05:49 AM
My family is keeping your family in our prayers. All the best. --Sherry

Tink
08-14-2008, 05:52 AM
Southern girl, God must have needed another angel in Heaven and Jenna Grace is his choice. May He continue to bless you and yours with the strength and wisdom you already seem to have.

Robin
08-14-2008, 06:02 AM
So sad to hear this, SG. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Southern_girl29
08-14-2008, 08:01 AM
Thank you everyone. I do appreciate the support. This has been so much harder than I ever imagined it to be.

Snowstorm
08-14-2008, 08:35 AM
My sincere condolences on your loss, Southern Girl.

You are brave and strong to let us know what happened to your little one. So many times, people struggle through a terrible loss in private. May you gain some measure of comfort from us.

Dawno
08-14-2008, 08:39 AM
My sympathies go out to you and your family. May God bring you strength and peace.

MoonWriter
08-14-2008, 09:13 AM
Southern girl, I'm sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Jo
08-14-2008, 09:27 AM
So sorry to hear this, SG. Condolences to you and your family. :Hug2:

NeuroFizz
08-14-2008, 09:31 AM
The angels who are with us
for so short a time
remind us not
of what might have been
but of how precious
are our bonds
which are born to forever
from so short a time

BenPanced
08-14-2008, 09:32 AM
I hope you and your family are feeling better soon. My deepest condolences.

JennaGlatzer
08-14-2008, 10:07 AM
I found some extra hugs, so I thought I'd bring them your way.

(hug) (hug) (hug) (hug) (hug)

threedogpeople
08-14-2008, 10:12 AM
You and your family are in my hearts and prayers. We are all sad that we won't get to know Jenna. She has a wonderful family and I know that she is cherished.

Many blessings! I hope you feel the arms of all of us hugging you and the Lord holding your family close while you move through the next hours, days, months.

HUGS, Judy

EriRae
08-14-2008, 10:55 AM
:Hug2: So sorry that things turned out this way. You've been in my prayers since your previous post. Tessa picked a beautiful name. May Jenna Grace watch over her and your family through this difficult time. You're still in my prayers.

kct webber
08-14-2008, 11:08 AM
I'm very sorry SG. :(

:Hug2:

gypsyscarlett
08-14-2008, 11:34 AM
At times like this it's always difficult to know what to say. Words never seem adequate.

I think it's really beautiful that you named her. I hope that helps with the healing process.

Hugs and sending you the best during this difficult time.

Unique
08-14-2008, 12:11 PM
southerngirl - I'm so sorry for your loss.

This silly computer ate my "fancy words" so just know I'll be thinking of you and your family.

(((Big Hugs)))

HeronW
08-14-2008, 12:52 PM
My sympathies on your loss.

JJ Cooper
08-14-2008, 01:11 PM
Condolences for your loss, SG. My thoughts go out to you and your family. Stay strong.

JJ

kristie911
08-14-2008, 01:11 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss, SG. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

:Hug2:

Marian Perera
08-14-2008, 01:22 PM
I promise to hold you in the mind,
as a cupped hand protects a flame.

I did a search for this poem (http://www.a-reminiscence.com/whatremains.htm), because I thought it might help through a loss, although I didn't know its name or the name of the book in which it might have been printed. The webpage on which I found it says at the top, "Letters to my daughter : what remains".

My sympathy to you and your family.

JimmyB27
08-14-2008, 01:42 PM
Oh, SG, that's terrible. As gypsyscarlett says, at times like this, words seem so inadequate, so futile. But, for what it's worth, we're all thinking of you at this difficult time.

nerds
08-14-2008, 02:40 PM
:cry:


as Dylan Thomas wrote, death shall have no dominion. And it doesn't. She'll live always in your hearts, and she does dwell safe with angels.


:Hug2:

quickWit
08-14-2008, 04:13 PM
So sorry for your loss, SG.

Peace :Hug2:

Little Red Barn
08-14-2008, 04:15 PM
Oh, Southern, so sorry :Hug2: I just saw this and send my hugs and prayers, sweetie.

Maryn
08-14-2008, 04:21 PM
Oh, how sad for you all. I've got a big hug ready whenever you need it, as many times as you need it.

Maryn

sheadakota
08-14-2008, 05:05 PM
Oh, Southern Girl, I was thinking of you the other day and wondering how you were doing. My heart breaks for you and the loss of your sweet Jenna Grace.

Pagey's_Girl
08-14-2008, 05:48 PM
Oh no...

I'm so, so sorry. :(

Mela
08-14-2008, 06:12 PM
How tragic. So sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you and your family.

CACTUSWENDY
08-14-2008, 06:16 PM
I am so sorry for your trial. Best wishes to you and your family for this loss.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((YOU)))))))))))))))) ))))))))))))))

awatkins
08-14-2008, 06:55 PM
I am so, so sorry. *hugs and prayers*

Southern_girl29
08-14-2008, 07:52 PM
Thank you again everyone.

jannawrites
08-14-2008, 09:32 PM
Oh my, I'm so sorry about this, Southern_girl. May you be continually comforted by the love you'd already had for her.

Calla Lily
08-14-2008, 09:35 PM
Praying for you and your family, SG. May comfort enfold you.

Kitrianna
08-14-2008, 09:37 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss, but I will say something that my sister in-law has believed since she lost her baby. You have your own personal angel now.

regdog
08-14-2008, 10:12 PM
So sorry to hear about your loss. Tears for your lost girl :cry:

And hugs for you :Hug2::Hug2:

kristi26
08-15-2008, 12:00 AM
A few weeks ago, I posted a thread asking for positive thoughts for the baby I was carrying, since our test results came back with a one in 10 chance of the baby having Trisomy18. It turned out that the baby had it, and she was a girl. Trisomy 18 is a chromosome disorder where the baby has three chromosome 18s,instead of two. The most common Trisomy is Down's Syndrome, but Trisomy 18 is not compatible with life.

After we found out, we decided to name her, and when my little girl suggested Jenna Grace, we decided to go with that. We knew Tessa wouldn't get to know her, so we thought this was a way to let her in on all of it.

On Monday, I found out through ultrasound that Jenna had passed away. She was born yesterday. We will be having a memorial service for Aug. 24. I'm doing ok. I know she wouldn't have been able to have any quality of life had she lived, and she will not suffer.

I do want to think everyone for the positive thoughts a few weeks ago.


I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. A few weeks ago, I lost a baby at nine weeks. It wasn't nearly so devastating as I'm sure this is for you. Good luck with the memorial service. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Ol' 61
08-15-2008, 05:36 AM
So, so sorry, SG. I'm thinking good thoughts for you and your family. Many hugs to you!

Cecilia

C.bronco
08-15-2008, 05:50 AM
I am so sorry to hear that. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
I hope that something good comes to lessen the sadness.

IceCreamEmpress
08-15-2008, 05:56 AM
So sorry for your loss. And how lovely that your daughter named her sister.

I had a brother who died before he was born, and it's tough for everyone, but so much easier for kids when you talk it through with them. It was strong and brave of you all to be so open.

Chumplet
08-15-2008, 07:14 AM
Best wishes and hugs for you in your sorrow.

Mom'sWrite
08-15-2008, 07:26 AM
I'm sending in my hugs too. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

Pat~
08-15-2008, 08:35 AM
Southern_girl, I'm so sad to hear of your loss of baby Jenna. A family in our church recently lost a baby boy to Trisomy 13 disorder. When you're able, you might be interested in a website support group for these disorders at this link (http://www.trisomy.org/index.php).

Southern_girl29
08-16-2008, 09:08 AM
Thank you so much. And Pat, thanks for the Web site. I will be checking it out. Please let the family at your church know they are not alone. I felt that way at first, but I know now it's not true.

Yeshanu
08-16-2008, 09:06 PM
:Hug2: :cry: