View Full Version : A rose by any other name

07-30-2008, 08:21 PM
Iím putting this here because, while it could pertain to writing, it has more to do with my dating life. At the moment said dating life is close to nonexistant. So, I decided to try the internet dating thing. Iím not sure how well itís working. You would be surprised the number of people who donít know how to spell check. Now, I donít claim to be the best speller in the land. (I could, in fact, claim the worst title.) Iím trying to work around this fact. However, Iím running into an unusual problem.

Are there names you just canít stand? Maybe Peter Smith put gum in your hair in the first grade resulting in the worst. haircut. ever. So now all Peterís are cute haircut killers. Or maybe Ralph Macchio broke your heart and you canít watch The Karate Kid without crying. So when I come across a profile with wit, correctly spelled words, and is grammatically correctÖI swoon. Then I read his name and itís Hubert (or something like that). Oh dear. I donít know if I can get past that.
Am I completely off my rocker? Am I normal?

Oh and Hi, again. :hi:I'm back. AND I am writing again.
And that is a magical feat in itself.

07-30-2008, 08:44 PM
Naw. You're completely sane. I almost blew my husband off because I dated a guy who named Richard who was obsessive and controlling. Now I have him and another person with the same name who is a very dear and thoughtful friend. Glad I gave the rest of the Richards another shot...

Clair Dickson
07-30-2008, 08:51 PM
I totally understand how you feel. But, I would hope you'd give the guy a chance to change your mind on Huberts. It's (more than likely) not his fault he has that name!

Personally, I can't stand the way the name Daniel sounds when I say it. (There are other people who say the name and it sounds fine!) When I say it, it sounds a little too much like Danielle, so I call my supervisor Dan. Luckily, he's okay with that. =)

07-30-2008, 09:08 PM
I know what you mean- I have weird prejudices about some names. In fact, of my 2 serious relationships I didn't really like either of their names.

BUT- they didn't choose their own names, and can't help their parent's choices. Also, tons of blokes are known by their middle or last name, so you might not have to use the name on the profile. So get to know them a little, maybe think of a good nickname for them. I never call my boyfriend his 'real' name, I have a special name for him...sounds mushy and weird but there you go!

You don't want to miss out on love just 'cos of a name.

(This also reminds me of 'the Importance of being Earnest', where she wanted her husband to have one particular name- now that's extreme!)

07-30-2008, 09:09 PM
Give 'em all a pet name. Say . . . "Boo Boo".