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thistle
04-21-2005, 12:28 AM
I left my teaching job a few months ago because of a back injury. I don't miss it much, except that I advised the school newspaper and I miss my editors a lot.

They miss me, too. Today the students had an early release and my boys came to my house (thank god it was half-way clean) to give me a surprise guilt trip and eat my food.

I'm glad that they came to joke around with me and tell me they miss me...but I'm sad that I'm no longer their adviser. They ate my chips, drank my soda, and left me with a big hole in my heart.

I've been making lemonade with the freelancing thing, but there's times, like today, I'm not sure I've made the right decision. Well, I didn't really have a choice...

Cheer me up? (I promise, I'm not always so glum...)

T42
04-21-2005, 12:39 AM
Cheer me up? (I promise, I'm not always so glum...)Listen thistle, Everything in life happens for a reason. Memories are to be cherished, not brought out for regrets. Keep feeding those kids and they will keep coming back. At some point you will find yourself giving them the boot:D It's empty nest syndrome and it does go away. I am in this house 24/7 so I use this board and these people as my friends. (rather they want me too or not!) Just hang in their. Keep yourself busy and remember that when one door closes, another one will always open. Now, have a brownie and a nice cup of herbal tea and enjoy the journey.:Coffee:

Savannah Blue
04-21-2005, 12:46 AM
:Hug2:

Murman
04-21-2005, 01:10 AM
Thistle, it's perfectly healthy for you to be feeling like this. You have great memories, formed friendships, straightened out a few kids....why the guilt trip? The students are still perfectly able to progress, right? Your bonds with them aren't dead yet. So kerb that attitude!
There comes a point when after all is said and done, you need to pull yourself together and think about what you want. What you really want. Where do you want to go from here? Find the answer to that and pursue it - you have time to do it. Don't take yourself so seriously....!
Now go and dust off your PJs and snuggle up to a movie or something.

rhymegirl
04-21-2005, 01:17 AM
I think it's nice that those kids came to visit you. It's a very good thing that they miss you; it means that you had an effect on them and mean something to them. I would feel proud about that.

You always have us, the writers here at AW to talk to. I don't have any co-workers, haven't for a few years since I've been freelancing, so sometimes I miss having adults to talk to during the day. (or anyone, whatever age) The people I "talk to" online make me laugh and make me feel as if I'm really talking to people.

Maybe your students can come visit you again.

Here's a hug in the meantime. :Hug2:

ritinrider
04-21-2005, 01:49 AM
aw thistle :Hug2: :Hug2: a couple of hugs to make you feel better.

Nita

Gehanna
04-21-2005, 02:19 AM
Seems to me you still are the advisor only you don't know it....yet.

Why not consider supplementing your "lemonade" with editing/advisory assistance for students from your home and/or a website?

I wish I had help from someone such as you back in my high school and college days with all those term papers and etc. The services would have been well worth the cost that's for sure.

Anyway, it's just a thought.

God Bless,
Gehanna

thistle
04-21-2005, 03:22 AM
Thanks, guys, for the lift. You're right. I should look back at that time with joy, not remorse.

And, hey. I really enjoy my morning commute (coffee pot to desk). I am still their adviser--they still e-mail and call. You're right. I'm priveleged to have been a part of their lives and happy to know that they still see me as a part of it.

Ah. Better. Thanks. You guys are terrific. :)

awatkins
04-21-2005, 03:22 AM
:Hug2: Hope you're feeling better. :)

Ahh! I see you are feeling better. Must have been posting at the same time.

Celeste
04-21-2005, 03:39 AM
I think it's nice that those kids came to visit you. It's a very good thing that they miss you; it means that you had an effect on them and mean something to them. I would feel proud about that.


Here's a hug in the meantime. :Hug2:

Ditto to that!

You have obviously made an important impact on these boys. You are in their hearts, as they are yours.

It's only been three months. I think what you're feeling is normal. You're still getting used to the change. Years back, I gave up a whole life style and friends that went along with it and moved away. It's very difficult letting go of all the people I met through the years. That's not saying for you to let go of the relationship with these boys. But you just gotta' think of all the new, positive things that are ahead of you.

We never know if the choices we make are going to be for the best, but things always work out in the end.

You hang in there! :Sun: Things will be fine. You'll see....;)

celeste

wurdwise
04-21-2005, 04:00 AM
I've been down lately too, but this place makes me feel all warm and fuzzy!

http://images.art.com/images/PRODUCTS/shdws/large/10021000/10021247.jpg

Celeste
04-21-2005, 04:17 AM
Aww...That lil' chimp is so cute!

zizban
04-21-2005, 04:19 AM
I got laid off my Teachers Aide job. This is sad but on the bright side, more time to write!

bjewel77
04-21-2005, 04:30 AM
How many teachers have ever had students come to see them??? I'd feel really honored if kids did that to me! They obviously love and respect you.

I get down in the dumps too. Especially when I spend so much time worrying about the bills instead of trying to write. I'm glad we have this board to talk to others, and to escape for a while. Hang in there, Thistle!

maestrowork
04-21-2005, 05:02 AM
I was kind of in a funk this morning as well... but all is well now. Just needed a long drive with the top down and a pinch of reality: I'm alive and breathing! Life is good.

http://www.spotsylvania.k12.va.us/saes/images/Hug(640).jpg

Liam Jackson
04-21-2005, 05:12 AM
Two school teachers walk into a bar...stop me if you've heard this one... :)

Seriously, I can emphatize with your situation. There's not much anyone can really say to cheer us up in times like this. Just remember....the things in life that most resemble trials, often turn out to be opportunities.
(((hugs)))

thistle
04-21-2005, 06:43 AM
Thanks, everyone. Looking at your posts reminds me why I'm so lucky to have joined this group.

You have really cheered me up considerably. I e-mailed the boys, thanked them for their visit, told them I'd help them any way I could, and invited them to come anytime. (Now, watch: they'll show up for dinner tomorrow night! :D)

I really am fortunate, aren't I? I've always wanted to do freelance writing; now I have the time and no excuses! How lucky is that?

Thanks, again!

T42
04-21-2005, 11:42 PM
:Lecture: Important information for the woman who stay home! Please feel free to use this if needed in an emergency! Memory McDermott

One day a man comes home from work to find total mayhem at home. The kids were outside still in their pajamas playing in the mud and muck. There were empty food boxes and wrappers all around. As he proceeded into the house, he found an even bigger mess. Dishes on the counter, dog food spilled on the floor, a broken glass under the table, and a small pile of sand by the back door. The family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing, and a lamp had been knocked over. He headed up the stairs, stepping over toys, to look for his wife. He was becoming worried that she may be ill, or that something had happened to her.
He found her in the bedroom, still in bed with her pajamas on, reading a book. She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went. He looked at her bewildered and asked, "What happened here today?"
She again smiled and answered, "You know everyday when you come home from work and ask me what I did today?"
"Yes," was his reply."
She answered, "Well, today I didn't do it!"

thistle
04-22-2005, 12:39 AM
Thanks, T42, and everyone for the smiles, hugs, and kind words. I went to bed happy last night because of the nice things you all wrote. :)

Today has been one of the most productive writing days I've had. I have a renewed sense of purpose!

My new motto is: a bad day of writing is better than a good day at work! :)

Thanks again!

Celeste
04-22-2005, 12:53 AM
:Lecture: Important information for the woman who stay home! Please feel free to use this if needed in an emergency! Memory McDermott

One day a man comes home from work to find total mayhem at home. The kids were outside still in their pajamas playing in the mud and muck. There were empty food boxes and wrappers all around. As he proceeded into the house, he found an even bigger mess. Dishes on the counter, dog food spilled on the floor, a broken glass under the table, and a small pile of sand by the back door. The family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing, and a lamp had been knocked over. He headed up the stairs, stepping over toys, to look for his wife. He was becoming worried that she may be ill, or that something had happened to her.
He found her in the bedroom, still in bed with her pajamas on, reading a book. She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went. He looked at her bewildered and asked, "What happened here today?"
She again smiled and answered, "You know everyday when you come home from work and ask me what I did today?"
"Yes," was his reply."
She answered, "Well, today I didn't do it!"

Ha-ha-ha! That is great! I love it! :Clap:


My new motto is: a bad day of writing is better than a good day at work! :)



There ya' go! That's the spirit! :Thumbs:

wurdwise
04-22-2005, 12:56 AM
What do you call a duck crossing the road?

T42
04-22-2005, 12:57 AM
What do you call a duck crossing the road?Dead?

thistle
04-22-2005, 01:03 AM
What do you call a duck crossing the road?

Um, I don't know...is he working for the chicken?

wurdwise
04-22-2005, 01:03 AM
Poultry in motion.

rhymegirl
04-22-2005, 01:24 AM
Today has been one of the most productive writing days I've had. I have a renewed sense of purpose!



:hooray: That's great to hear!

rhymegirl
04-22-2005, 01:27 AM
Poultry in motion.


:roll: That's funny!

Rose Red
04-22-2005, 03:34 AM
Glad you're feeling better, Diane ! :TheWave:

While I don't know exactly what its like to be you, I wanted to share with you something of myself in the hope that it gives you some comfort to know that your feelings are not uncommon.

I haven't worked for a few years now. I used to think that I missed being part of the working world, especially when I saw ex co -workers and they came and talked shop with me. It made me feel connected, in a way. But you know what, it took me a while to realise that I had a selective memory about my workplace, lol. I forgot all the pressures and the targets and the deadlines and the nasty customers and the office politics, etc, etc...you get the picture.

What I think that I really missed was the social contact, not the work. I'd never experienced going without breaking breath to a soul for most of the day before I gave up my job through illness, and the isolation took a lot of getting used to. I'm very sociable by nature, so it was hard. Of course, you are you, and I am me, so that's not necessarily why you felt the way you did, I'm just sharing my personal experience. :)

As the saying goes, be careful what you wish for, lol. I wanted to write from the age of about 12. I always loved it when we had to do essays. I was the kid that was grinning gleefully while the rest were groaning, lol. OF course, time passes and it got pushed aside... there was school, work, marriage, childbirth, depression, divorce,a new relationship, etc..etc... Writing gradually fell off my priority list until it was long forgotten that I'd ever had the inclination to write, never mind a passion for it.

Back to the present...Suddenly I realise that 27 years of my life have passed in the blink of an eye, and now, decades later, I have the time and renewed enthusiasm to actually do what I wanted to as a kid. I truly believe that we can get what we want and dream of. It might not come to us in the way we expect or imagine, but it will come at the right time. I have all those life changes under my belt to fire my imagination and write about that I never could have in my younger years, as you will have your own experiences to draw on too.

Give yourself a pat on the back for what you have achieved so far, Diane, and what you will in the future. Be especially proud of the way you have obviously touched the lives of your students deeply. That's a real gift. :)

I believe that the opportunities are out there for us all to get to where we want to be in life, if we only allow ourselves to see them when they present themselves. It's very possible that this is one of those times in your life when you're on the right road to get what you want, Diane. So keep your eyes peeled, and when you see it, grab on with both hands!!
Wishing you all the luck in the world with your writing! :Clap:

Rose Red
P.S.I'm a self confessed prattler. Please don't hold it against me,lol. :flag: