Good for you! : )
When you really think about it, we're SUPPOSED to have rejections. We query, once our letters are polished, to specific agents'/human beings' very specific tastes.
If getting an agent is akin to finding a needle in a haystack, then you BELIEVE the needle exists, and if you persist, you'll find it. But if you expect EVERY haystack to have a needle, you then have a hand in setting yourself up for EXTRA disappointment.
The query and rejection process is just that -- a process.
In addition, maybe we have those rejections in order to teach us something, and to teach us how to be stronger. You never know how many life-lessons are served by the harder times in ones life.
All that aside, it IS a disapointing process, and a hard one. Whatever we can do to shore ourselves up is a good thing, of course, including regulating the size of our disappointments with logic, like you are doing.
Hooray for you, too, for putting yourself out there!
Em
So far my instincts have been good. Two rejections this morning. I'm expecting one more tomorrow and then, of course, the two non-replies which I will get by way of not receiving.
Honestly, I'm not being fatalistic. I'm just calculating the odds and they are about 1 in 20 for a positive reply of any kind.
And when I say "I don't care," I don't mean, "I don't care." I mean it isn't going to crush me when the NO's come rolling in. Because they will. It used to ruin me for days at a time. But at this point it has happened so much that I can't let it get me down. It is a choice, and one that took a LONG time to learn to answer properly. Plus, if I send out 50 queries and they all come back "no", that's a buttload of down time. And life's just too short. Do I have my bad days? Ask my wife. But today isn't one of them.
And you know what, two NO's this morning and I'm flying high, even with this pesky sinus infection and a morning of modelling satellite dynamics.
-MM
