Do you know people who'll grab the wrong ball and run with it?

Upbeat · May 13, 2008

Whether conversing in cyberspace or in face-to-face conversation there are people who seem to enjoy misunderstanding what someone has written or said.
They'll take straightforward comments, distort them in their minds, then run with them on levels foreign to the original subjects.
While one solution is to be as clear as you possibly can, when writing or saying something, there still are folks who'll grab the wrong ball and run with it.
Why is this?
...many reasons, perhaps - some unintentional - others deliberate.

Tink · May 13, 2008

Pllllllllllaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy Baaaaaaaaaaalllllllllllllllllllllllll !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

slcboston · May 13, 2008

I'll thank you to leave my.... Wait, that's not going to come out right at all, is it?

truelyana · May 13, 2008

Yes, and I find it wonderful and very interesting, as it shows different people have various ways of perceiving things. I find everyones understanding fascinating, even if it may not be the same as yours. In the end, everyone takes on their own interpretation anyway, so whatever you may say, may not end up clear in another's mind. It's interesting how we all think, and what we take from the moment, isn't it?

It's also interesting, how this seems to be most visible in informal places like the Internet such as forums, as you are really just reading words, and you can often associate so many different things with a few words, someone else writes.

robeiae · May 13, 2008

Do you know people who'll grab the wrong ball and run with it?

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Yes, I do. And you know what? It FREAKIN' HURTS!!!!

Upbeat · May 13, 2008

Tink...exactly!!

Tink · May 13, 2008

Upbeat said:
Tink...exactly!!

No, not me! *casts innocent doe-eyed look towards upbeat*

Upbeat · May 13, 2008

truelyana said:
I think it's very interesting, as it shows different people have various ways of perceiving things. I find everyones understanding fascinating, even if it may not be the same as yours. In the end, everyone takes on their own interpretation anyway, so whatever you may say, may not end up clear in another's mind. It's interesting how we all think, and what we take from the moment, isn't it?

It's also interesting, how this seems to be most visible in informal places like the Internet such as forums, as you are really just reading words, and you can often associate so many different things with a few words, someone else may write.

...a most thoughtful response; and yes, I SO agree with what you've written here.

Tink · May 13, 2008

Upbeat said:
...a most thoughtful response; and yes, I SO agree with what you've written here.

Oh, now I get it... Ah ha moment, you wanted intellect here...ummm, I better scoot on outta' here... :gone:

Upbeat · May 13, 2008

Tink said:
No, not me! *casts innocent doe-eyed look towards upbeat*

Oh - sweet innocence!

DWSTXS · May 13, 2008

Upbeat said:
Whether conversing in cyberspace or in face-to-face conversation there are people who seem to enjoy misunderstanding what someone has written or said.
They'll take straightforward comments, distort them in their minds, then run with them on levels foreign to the original subjects.
While one solution is to be as clear as you possible can, when writing or saying something, there still are folks who'll grab the wrong ball and run with it.
Why is this?
...many reasons, perhaps - some unintentional - others deliberate.

I couldn't disagree with you less!

rhymegirl · May 13, 2008

Don't take my ball or I'm telling my mommy.

Devil Ledbetter · May 13, 2008

I just knock them flat on their asses and grab the ball back.

CACTUSWENDY · May 13, 2008

I think you are all wrong. What about the taxes?

You all think you know so much. Show me the link.

And you, you who think that green is better. Pffft. What do you know?

This is a time for a good flounce................I am out of here......poooooffff

soleary · May 13, 2008

A friend of mine who is a psychologist told me that over 80% of communication is nonverbal. If you consider this, how much communication do we do through phone or email or blog? If we can't literally read each other, it becomes more difficult.

Interesting ....

Upbeat · May 13, 2008

CACTUSWENDY said:
I think you are all wrong. What about the taxes?

You all think you know so much. Show me the link.

And you, you who think that green is better. Pffft. What do you know?

This is a time for a good flounce................I am out of here......poooooffff

Regarding the thoughts expressed in this thread starter, any ball will do. I love both serious and funny responses.
In fact - when reading the above, I sat here laughing out loud!
You - all of you - are something else!!!

Upbeat · May 13, 2008

soleary said:
A friend of mine who is a psychologist told me that over 80% of communication is nonverbal. If you consider this, how much communication do we do through phone or email or blog? If we can't literally read each other, it becomes more difficult.

Interesting ....

...if only we all could be mind readers!!
- or read between the lines.

Silver King · May 13, 2008

This is an interesting topic, one which most of us have struggled with here at one time or another when posting. Sometimes it doesn't matter what you say, as even the simplest and most well-intentioned response can be misinterpreted to mean the opposite of what you proposed. And when you try to clarify your position, often it leads to creating a wider gulf of misunderstanding.

I think it requires a good number of posts, at least a couple of hundred, until members appreciate where you're coming from. There's a greater degree of acceptance when views are offered from someone you feel you know instead of a person you've recently met, simply because you understand better the person who has been around longer.

But it doesn't matter how many posts you have, or how long you've been here, because at some point, someone's going to grab your ball and shove it down your throat no matter what you say. And it's how you deal with the ensuing gag reflex that matters most in showing how well you communicate.

choppersmom · May 13, 2008

And then, some people will just cover up the ball with an innocent baby...

mscelina · May 13, 2008

Silver King said:
This is an interesting topic, one which most of us have struggled with here at one time or another when posting. Sometimes it doesn't matter what you say, as even the simplest and most well-intentioned response can be misinterpreted to mean the opposite of what you proposed. And when you try to clarify your position, often it leads to creating a wider gulf of misunderstanding.

I think it requires a good number of posts, at least a couple of hundred, until members appreciate where you're coming from. There's a greater degree of acceptance when views are offered from someone you feel you know instead of a person you've recently met, simply because you understand better the person who has been around longer.

But it doesn't matter how many posts you have, or how long you've been here, because at some point, someone's going to grab your ball and shove it down your throat no matter what you say. And it's how you deal with the ensuing gag reflex that matters most in showing how well you communicate.

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Of course, in MY world, people take the ball where I tell 'em to. Period.

lakotagirl · May 13, 2008

Silver King said:
And when you try to clarify your position, often it leads to creating a wider gulf of misunderstanding.

Yep. I tend to not clarify unless several people take something in a way that I did not intend. Life's just too short to spend time with someone who isn't going to understand where you are coming from.

I'd rather leave them giving me the finger behind my back than waste the time trying to explain my point of view.

That sounds pretty rude - I'm not a nasty person. I just don't waste time with people who look for problems with anything.

CACTUSWENDY · May 13, 2008

<<<<<<<<<<<<<<am still flouncing....... :e2tongue:

Silver King · May 13, 2008

lakotagirl said:
Yep. I tend to not clarify unless several people take something in a way that I did not intend. Life's just too short to spend time with someone who isn't going to understand where you are coming from.

I'd rather leave them giving me the finger behind my back than waste the time trying to explain my point of view.

That sounds pretty rude - I'm not a nasty person. I just don't waste time with people who look for problems with anything.

There's a lot to be said about the wisdom of walking away from a discussion, though it can be exceedingly difficult at times. Even when the walls are crumbling and the roof is caving in, I'll stand at the podium and espouse my views even after everyone else has fled the building. I'm stubborn that way. But is it worth it? Hardly ever, as I once again find myself crawling out from the rubble, soiled and dazed and far worse for the wear.

Cranky · May 13, 2008

Silver King said:
There's a lot to be said about the wisdom of walking away from a discussion, though it can be exceedingly difficult at times. Even when the walls are crumbling and the roof is caving in, I'll stand at the podium and espouse my views even after everyone else has fled the building. I'm stubborn that way. But is it worth it? Hardly ever, as I once again find myself crawling out from the rubble, soiled and dazed and far worse for the wear.

I type stuff out, and then delete it before I hit post.

Or not. Sometimes I don't delete until after I've already sent it. ((HUGS))

rhymegirl · May 13, 2008

Silver King said:
There's a lot to be said about the wisdom of walking away from a discussion, though it can be exceedingly difficult at times. Even when the walls are crumbling and the roof is caving in, I'll stand at the podium and espouse my views even after everyone else has fled the building. I'm stubborn that way. But is it worth it? Hardly ever, as I once again find myself crawling out from the rubble, soiled and dazed and far worse for the wear.

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