I don't know if the title had to be so pin-pointed? I just wanted to get it all in there. I'm writing a fictional short story using elements of a memory that is pretty sketchy.
Every time I hear a bully story I think back to the one I was a part of in elementary school (I heard a bully story here yesterday that made me think of this memory). Most of my childhood I went to Catholic schools, but there was a two year period where we moved half a block away from a public school and we went there, I suppose, for convenience.
I was 7 in 1973 and my best friend was a sikh boy. One day a bully about 2 years older than us got him in a doorway during recess, held him against the door and ripped off his turban. There was a crowd around taunting and screaming... so it was somewhat of a swarming, I suppose (though I don't remember having the term at the time?). Ravinder was absolutely destroyed. I remember that he was most worried that his father would find out that his turban had come off. (And he couldn't put it on as well... in fact not very well at all.) He was sullen for about a week after... not looking anybody in the eye. It even took him a while to warm back up to me.
Looking back, I'm guessing his parents gave him a talk about trust, etc... and he had a hard time regaining trust in our friendship (though I don't really know... like I said, we were just kids at the time... most of what I remember is probably remembered through a different self than the one who experienced it)
Anyway... what was my question?
-are there any here who are either Sikhs or know Sikhs and would know what Ravinder went through at home that day? This is the part of the story I want to portray accurately.
-would a 7-year old know how to tie his own turban? Am I remembering this part accurately? I'm sure this was his biggest worry... but I'm thinking was it that his father would find out from the school that it was off, or that his father would see that it wasn't on right and realize that it was off. (Of course, until this day I had never seen him put on his turban... it was just always on)
-I'd also love some insight into little details of a Sikh home in this era... I suppose that's the biggest longshot of them all. I played in his yard a lot, but never in his home... I remember being at the door... but recall no details. (We mostly played at my house.)
I found this site explaining how to tie a turban, but there are several different types. I know that Ravinder's turban was pretty complicated... not just the one on this site shown to be warn by boys at home: Turbans
(I guess I will never know which one he wore, though to me it looked like the General Men's one on the website???)
The first part of this short story is already written... I wrote it last night. Any insights would be beyond helpful at this point. I've googled to research a few things already, but I guess these little details to authenticate are a bit beyond what I can think to google...
Thanks in advance.
Every time I hear a bully story I think back to the one I was a part of in elementary school (I heard a bully story here yesterday that made me think of this memory). Most of my childhood I went to Catholic schools, but there was a two year period where we moved half a block away from a public school and we went there, I suppose, for convenience.
I was 7 in 1973 and my best friend was a sikh boy. One day a bully about 2 years older than us got him in a doorway during recess, held him against the door and ripped off his turban. There was a crowd around taunting and screaming... so it was somewhat of a swarming, I suppose (though I don't remember having the term at the time?). Ravinder was absolutely destroyed. I remember that he was most worried that his father would find out that his turban had come off. (And he couldn't put it on as well... in fact not very well at all.) He was sullen for about a week after... not looking anybody in the eye. It even took him a while to warm back up to me.
Looking back, I'm guessing his parents gave him a talk about trust, etc... and he had a hard time regaining trust in our friendship (though I don't really know... like I said, we were just kids at the time... most of what I remember is probably remembered through a different self than the one who experienced it)
Anyway... what was my question?
-are there any here who are either Sikhs or know Sikhs and would know what Ravinder went through at home that day? This is the part of the story I want to portray accurately.
-would a 7-year old know how to tie his own turban? Am I remembering this part accurately? I'm sure this was his biggest worry... but I'm thinking was it that his father would find out from the school that it was off, or that his father would see that it wasn't on right and realize that it was off. (Of course, until this day I had never seen him put on his turban... it was just always on)
-I'd also love some insight into little details of a Sikh home in this era... I suppose that's the biggest longshot of them all. I played in his yard a lot, but never in his home... I remember being at the door... but recall no details. (We mostly played at my house.)
I found this site explaining how to tie a turban, but there are several different types. I know that Ravinder's turban was pretty complicated... not just the one on this site shown to be warn by boys at home: Turbans
(I guess I will never know which one he wore, though to me it looked like the General Men's one on the website???)
The first part of this short story is already written... I wrote it last night. Any insights would be beyond helpful at this point. I've googled to research a few things already, but I guess these little details to authenticate are a bit beyond what I can think to google...
Thanks in advance.