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109 | 68.55% |
| I consider myself extroverted. |
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20 | 12.58% |
| I consider myself ambiverted...or something else--here, I'll post about it. |
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30 | 18.87% |
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Sticking feathers up your bum, etc.
Join Date: May 2011
Location: Germany
Posts: 322
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I think that all good writers in this world are sick and tired of being told that all good writers in this world are fed up with being told that all good writers in this world are fed up with being sick and tired of being introverted. I'm certainly not, and I'm sick and tired of being told that I am.
(Couldn't resist)
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#102 |
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New Fish; Learning About Thick Skin
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: NY
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I would consider myself extroverted.
All of my writing stem from real life experiences I've had. For me, writing is the time that i spend introverted. I write because it's almost therapeutic, a way for me to process everything i have experienced in others, and my self, in any given day. |
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practical experience, FTW
Join Date: May 2008
Location: Montreal, Canada
Posts: 423
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[QUOTE=CaroGirl;7200220]That said, I'm an introvert, in the sense that I'm drained rather than energized by social gatherings and need time alone to recharge my batteries.
QUOTE] That's exactly how I feel... drained. It took me a long time to accept my introvertedness. Somehow I always felt I had to be social... you know, the whole "people who need people are the luckiest..." Is it just me, or introvertedness, being solitary is kind of frowned upon? |
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#104 |
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is not a My Little Pony
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Ohio
Posts: 106
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I'm an introvert writer. I have a fear of going around people I don't know and don't often speak up unless I'm talked to personally. I can be vocal online, however when it comes to real life circumstances, I clam up and keep to myself.
I've got a friend from high school who writes as well and she's the same way. But it all depends on the person. Writers I think become introverts when they're writing to become free from distractions around them. |
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My rhymes are bottomless
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Canuckistan by way of Big D
Posts: 1,529
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Extroverted. At times, obnoxiously so. But it's been cyclic. When I was young, before my parents bought their house, we lived in an apartment when we first moved to Austin. I was about 4. I'd hang out by the pool with all the adults, and introduce everyone to everyone else. My mom called me "the social director."
I was fine all through junior high. In high school, I was dealing with the death of my father and changing schools just before 11th grade. Plus a mother who was dating a man who had not yet divorced his wife, and I was ashamed of our "back street family" status. I was made fun of for various reasons, and didn't even have a date all through the new HS. When I got to college, I was still that way. I was NEVER without a book in my hand, especially when I went to the cafeteria because it meant I never had to talk to anyone if I didn't want to. After the breakup with my first boyfriend, I pretty much said "#$%^ it" to everyone and life in general, and decided I was going to do whatever I wanted to do, and screw anyone who told me I couldn't. I have one of those personalities that always gets elected "leader" in group projects. Mostly because without even meaning to, I naturally take charge (all the shy people would refuse to do anything, and I never wanted to get an F). I was finally back to being the fun kid I used to be. Basically, it's been pretty great. People always tell me how much fun I am, so I guess it's working. |
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writing for kids and teens
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Canada
Posts: 514
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Introvert here. Most of my writer friends are introverts too, but that may say more about who I hang out than it does about writers in general...
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half in space, half in fairyland
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada
Posts: 4,245
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I'm very extroverted. So much so that I get a little nervous around very introverted people. Some deeply buried childish part of me thinks, "Oh noes! They don't like people! But I'm a person..." and I'm paranoid that they'll become hostile if I don't leave soon enough.
If I go too long without meaningful social interaction, I have less energy, my memory isn't as sharp, I get more prone to being overstressed and eventually all my joints begin to physically ache. That said, as far as extroverts go I'm very reserved- there are only two people in the world allowed to hug me because I consider it such a meaningful act. I have a very different idea of how I should treat my best friend than I do of how I should treat other friends, and a very different idea of how I should treat those than of how I should treat more casual acquaintances. Two of my good friends are introverts and there's a noticeable difference in how close I am to them emotionally compared to my very extroverted best friend. I seem to assume, probably incorrectly, that most introverts have several things ahead of other people on their priority list and so I avoid getting too attached in fear of forming one-sided connections. |
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#108 |
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practical experience, FTW
Join Date: May 2008
Location: Montreal, Canada
Posts: 423
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In my case you wouldn't be that incorrect. Of course there are people who are important to me and take priority in my life, but in general, chances are I'd rather be doing anything other then being with someone.
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Expletive Alchemist
Join Date: Nov 2011
Posts: 2,298
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Which is not about the other people, at all, but that's how they see it. They think you dislike them or hate them or are generally a grumpy bitchy crankypants. It's hard to explain that you're just tired as fuck and need to be alone for a while. Because an extrovert is energized by other people and doesn't really understand how being around other people just...sucks life out of you. Even if you like/love them. I dunno. Hard to explain. |
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#110 |
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Official AW Carnivorous Pony
Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 1,037
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I get this a ton, lol, probably because I look like an antithesis of the sort of person who'd ever be shy in social situations.
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#112 |
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Official AW Carnivorous Pony
Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 1,037
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kuwi, you're an Emperor penguin. (Saying this so you'll know how to respond when someone starts the "Are most writers Emperor penguins?" thread.)
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(It has nothing of value right now, so don't bother.) [Most recent update: 5/11/13] |
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#113 |
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i don't want to die
P&CE Ombudsman/Arbiter/Thingamajobbie
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Palo Alto, CA
Posts: 26,620
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Lots of times, I feel like a penguin.
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#114 |
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Gets Drunk With Economical Speed
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Earth, Babysitting Man-Animals.
Posts: 1,835
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I think most writers, including myself, are introverts - I mean, ideally, you spend 2-4 hours a day in your own mind, writing/editing your writing. That's a whole lot of conscious time to spend in your own head.
I think being introverted is a professional hazard.
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Kansas City, MO
Posts: 1,513
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I'm totally an extrovert, but at the same time my mind is constantly churning churning churning away. So while I could be out doing while and crazy or spontaneous things my mind is always working away on stories or what not.
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#116 |
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half in space, half in fairyland
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada
Posts: 4,245
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Yes, this! I get most of my story ideas in the middle of parties and such.
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#117 |
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Where Brainy goes, I follow.
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 7,640
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#118 |
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practical experience, FTW
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Kentucky (where commercialized fried chicken lives)
Posts: 744
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Very introverted around strangers, extroverted around friends. Sometimes though, I don't even want to be around my best friends and won't talk to anyone. Introvertedness seems to self-perpetuate once it hits.
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