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...! I've been betrayed!
*Runs away crying*
Ahem... like you haven't been proposing to half the girls at AW???
...! I've been betrayed!
*Runs away crying*
I knew that already. But please! There are limits! If I was venturing into... I don't know, Tepito or something (that place has a seriously bad reputation for kidnappings, drugs, and everything else), she has a reason to be worried. But I was in a McDonald's in the 'nice' part of the city and a friend drove me home. How is that something to worry about? We didn't even move from the McDonald's, we weren't doing anything potentially dangerous except maybe fooling around with a loose chair (and it was a friend who fell down, not me). She just doesn't understand that yes, she can be worried about me, but there are limits too.
[And, Dama, being in a "good part of town" is not a surefire solution that bad things won't or didn't happen.]
Dama, the point is, you might have known exactly where you were and what you were doing, but your mother didn't have a clue.
Ahem... like you haven't been proposing to half the girls at AW???
Lies! Bitter untruths!
Its been more like 3/4ths...
Lies! Bitter untruths!
Its been more like 3/4ths...
Understanding is a 2-way street, Dama. Talk to your Mom about how much you're going to miss your friends. Especially, your boyfriend. And that you want to spend extra time w/ them. If you have to have this talk, several times, so be it.She just doesn't understand that yes, she can be worried about me, but there are limits too.
The author (I think it's Kevin Leman, but I can't recall) of Making Kids Mind without Losing Yours talks about using logical consequences as discipline instead of "punishment." quote]
I went to this one church called Calvary Baptist a couple of weeks ago, ( which is alot better than my church, by the way) and that author was a speaker that day, and he held a bunch of bible-studies and meetings and stuff for the next couple of days.
We have new form of punishment for my four year old.. no computer time. Seriously, he discovered Noggin.com and NickJr. com, and he loves it. No cartoons and go to your room and sit on your bed works too. But he's four. An older kid, maybe take away their iPod or cell phone, or limit time on said cell phone. A kid who can drive - take away their car keys. Like others have said, it's all relative.
And FWIW, I think it says a lot about our teens here at AW that they come and ask adults for advice on how to best approach situations with their parents. It's inspiring.
She did. I always tell her where I am and make sure she knows if there's a change of plans.
I think most people nowadays don't punish their kids enough and when they do they punish the wrong one.
If my sister had been punished more often, she wouldn't be the loser she is now. My parents let her get away with everything the way they never let me (not that I've deserved it most of the time actually) because she is forceful. It's much easier to punish the kid who is easily intimidated...
AHEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think it's a case of parents telling their kids they are going to be punished, then not following through with punishment.