All I can say is, if you send your book to reviewers, be ready for them to refer to your book as self-published. Don't take offense, and don't lecture them on the problems of the publishing industry and the brave new world of self-publishing. Don't propose that they spotlight you in an article on that brave new world. Chances are, they've heard it all before.
I certainly have. I make every effort to spotlight self-published titles I really like, or that have some compelling interest to our readers, but that's a tiny fraction of the dozens I receive annually.
I've noticed an increase in writers who are willing to say up front that they've self-published and also realize that fact alone is not worthy of a story, and for this I'm grateful. If the blogger or book editor is at all receptive to self-published titles, your book will speak for itself.
Meanwhile, my boss still can't tell a self-published title apart from a trade one, but that's another story...
"Vanity publishing" does sound pejorative (and for good reason?), but "self-publishing," to me, is just factual. The more good SP books readers encounter, the less inclined they'll be to use it that way. With no gatekeepers, bad SP books will always outnumber good ones, but readers like the books they like. Generalizations like "trashy romances," "crappy self-published books" and "horrible fanfiction" (used to dismiss an entire genre) are generally used by people who don't read that genre and have no sense of the range of stuff out there.