Hey all. I have been reading the posts here and trying to catch up...but first let me tell ya'll that the doc. appt. wasn't great but it wasn't all bad either. I do not have to have surgery at this time. I agreed to take it easy and be more careful and for now, all is ok so thank ya'll again for the prayers and support.
Now, eMo, what is up with you? Look this is the place to discuss your problems but you have to know that the gals in here are gonna be honest with you because they DO CARE!! I CARE! Most of us has either done the same thing you are doing now or has witnessed folks that have or are going thru a similar situation. Only you can decide what you are going to do in your situation but don't stop posting because you are afraid of losing a friend, K?! We might give you some straight-up, hard to take advice but that doesn't mean you have to take it...it is all on you. Personally, I think you should move on and widen your circle. You are too young to be tied to such a sad situation, to a person that is jumping back and forth between you and another girl. What if you stay in a relationship with this guy or get into another one with this kind of guy and say you wind up getting married, have some babies and then HE decides he has made the wrong choice again and leaves you then...What Kind of Pain Do You See Yourself suffering then? It will be ten times worse than now, I know, I was 17 once and I set myself up for a bad relationship and it ended in disaster and I wish to God that I would have listened to older, wiser folks back then...but there it is...17!!! What a rough age---to young to be a grown woman, to old to be a little girl!!!
You are at difficult time in your life but you can do the right thing. Don't set yourself up for a lifetime of crappy relationships with crappy people who DO NOT DESERVE YOU because that is where you are heading now by allowing this guy to play yoyo with you....I will try to explain this as best as I can. You are young. You are making the wrong decisions based on whatever reasons you are basing them on and I have to agree with what Captshady said, It truely sounds like you do not think enough of yourself to stop this guy from using you...You need to put your foot down and say that is It!!! I have Had IT!!! It is either me or there isn't going to be a ME in your life anymore and stick to your guns!
Don't let a few lonely days go by and let him back in either because you got lonely or you are afraid you won't find anyone else because, believe me, there is someone else out there for you. You should never settle for the lesser of the known evils here---Got someone who is treating me like Shit or I don't have anyone and I am alone.(I think no, I will bet that the alone is the greater known evil for you right now, isn't it?) Take the alone (which only means without this particular guy), go out with girlfriends, hang out with your family, go to church, go to the park and hang out...I bet if you hold out long enough you will see you are not alone and that after the initial pain is over with you will be alot more happier and alot more relaxed than you are now with out the yoyo bouncing in and out of your life. You do not have to have a guy in your life to make your life complete. You are you and no man is going to complete you, You have to do that yourself. Yes, it is nice to have a guy in your life but only if he is making you happy the biggest part of the time and not making you miserable the biggest part of the time.
Girl, step up and take responsibility for who you are and for your own happiness and quit letting someone else have that kind of control over you.
I am usually not so forceful in my advice but I am afraid for you. You are like a young me...and that ain't worth a damn. Take action now and don't wait until ten yrs. of your young life is gone before you decide to step up and make your own happiness! DO IT NOW!!!!