seriously? this is what you're stooping to?
Bravo it's not me stooping; it's you abdicating your responsibility. You repeatedly expect other people to look up words for you, rather than spend your precious time. You say you don't have time to read a book--and expect someone else to summarize it for you.
You don't read carefully. You want things pre-digested for you.
no, it's a major logical conundrum.
Only if you view the world as a binary; as "gay or not gay," in your terms.
this is you attempting to do some semantic quibbling, but however many times you want to shift the goal posts, your statements are still wrong.
I'm not shifting the goal posts; I've been saying the same things, repeatedly.
Again: Go do some research. Read Kinsey. Notice how he, and I, and pretty much every responsible authoritative sex researcher out there says:
There's a spectrum of sexuality. There are lots of differences. People can in fact change sexuality, and in the current generation, sexual orientation seems to be far more fluid.
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what i'm getting from you here is that you're going to pick and choose what is locked in biologically for us and what we can discard. i would really like to know how you're doing doing this.
Again, my point is that if someone can't sexually function, it's not a fucking choice, Bravo. It really isn't.
pretty much everything that i've seen shows that sexuality is multi-factorial, and that it is a spectrum. what insight do you have that shows it is something that is statically created before we are born?
The fact again that there are men *who can't function sexually with a woman*
There are also men who can, depending on the individuals, function quite happily with either sex, and fall deeply in love, depending on the individuals.
In other words, there are heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, and asexual people, and all sorts of other alternatives.
Arguing that orientation is a "preference" is loaded language; that means that it's like whether or not you like broccoli. And the connotation is that you just have to learn to like broccoli or the opposite sex. It's the language of hate groups like focus on the family. It's the language that has parents sending their kids to "reorientation camps." It's the language that leads to books like Joseph Nicolosi and Linda Ames
Nicolosi's A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality, which talks about being queer as "a disease eating away at the heart of our society," and suggests that suicide may be the best answer, after all.
because to you, everyone is an individual and should be capable of forging their own "destiny", even if it goes against their neurological impulses.
Don't tell me what I think Bravo, especially not when you can't even be bothered to read carefully. You don't know what I think--and apparently, can't be bothered to read carefully. Or consider any alternative beyond your comfortable yes/no, black/white binary.
You're the one arguing for binaries; not me.
And telling someone who specializes in language that she's arguing semantics? That's sort of . . . odd.
Get a dictionary. Learn what the words mean. Queer and Gay and Lesbian and Straight and Heterosexual--they aren't synonyms. They all have very different connotations.