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Well yeah actually, I suppose that's one way to put it. Except I wouldn't always say someone else's responsibility. If I hired the workman after not checking into his previous work, I would say that was my own fault that the roof didn't hold up.
So nothing ever happens that we didn't orchestrate in some way?
That's a frightening thought, and can lead down a dangerous road of blaming the victim, "Well yeah, sucks she was raped, but she was out late with a guy and wearing a short skirt."
I know that isn't what you are really trying to say, but the idea that everything comes down to our responsibility is a teeny tiny bit silly. There are many things in life we can't control, now it doesn't mean therefore things happen to us supernaturally, but not everything that goes wrong is our fault. Which means, unfortunately, not everything that goes right is our fault either. Sometimes a series of events out of our control work in our favour or against it. Call it luck, call it a series of events out of our control, but to say that everything comes down to what we as individuals do is putting a heck of a lot of a burden on people.
I'm all for responsibility (I work just as hard as the next person despite set back after set back, I'm no moper) . . . but you are in a weird way doing a reverse version of The Secret, which said that if you just send out good vibes good things will happen, thus the only conclusion to be drawn is if bad things happen you weren't sending out enough good vibes and it's your fault if your family dies in a plane crash. For you your theory is "If you work hard enough and do everything right everything will work out" which means that if everything doesn't work out I simply am not working hard enough. Honestly, I'd love for you to tell that to my face, that I'm not working hard enough. I'm not a violent person at all, but if anyone had the gall to accuse me of that . . . well I'd probably explain calmly why they were wrong and then after we resolved our issues maybe ask if they wanted to go see Scott Pilgrim because I am SO looking forward to that movie . . .
I digress . . .
Sometimes bad things happen to good people for no other reason than they happen. And sometimes good things happen to good people (and to bad people too I should point out) for no other reason than they happen. To suggest otherwise is quite sweet I suppose, "If you work hard enough all your dreams will come true", but most of us know that life isn't fair. Personally I find the fact that despite knowing this we keep the optimism and keep persistently following our dreams actually pretty amazing. Much more impressive than working under the assumption that all will be well.
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