LMC - I'm probably about to be one of those people you are complaining about, but I just don't see you taking this back seat as you claim to on this site. I see you taking all your anxieties about the publication process and writing thread after thread after thread about it. To me, I can't see any good coming out of indulging your insecurities like that.
Further I have never seen anyone treat you badly here. I have seen people repeat the same advice to you over and over and you not take it and then subsequently (like a day later) post a new thread on almost the exact same topic. And people showing up on that one and pointing you in the direction of a former one. If that's what you mean by mean, well then I guess people are just cruel here.
(okay, to be fair, nobody's perfect, and I am sure you have the odd legitimate reason to be upset, but I think it's a tiny bit offensive to start a thread about mean people at AW when every single one of the threads you start is met by extremely helpful advice and empathy)
But maybe, just maybe, this isn't about the other members here, but about you. You are saying others are misinterpreting your words, but I think you often misinterpret others. I truly think that every time you start a thread about wait times or form rejections or submission patterns or whatever, you are waiting for one person to come along, wave a magic wand and make everything all better. And no one can do that for you. People can only offer you pragmatic advice. And that's where the problem comes in. You don't seem to actually want to hear pragmatic advice.
My recommendation to you would to actually step back from this site. Or better still, instead of constantly starting new threads about your woes, join in the conversations others are having. On other topics. Try to take your mind off of submissions, as opposed to indulging every concern. I think it will make you feel less stressed. And maybe if you offer to help others, instead of asking constantly for help yourself, you'll see that you actually do know your stuff, and you can sit back and relax and not worry so much.
You have experience, you have writing skill, and you have been through all this before. You should have more faith in yourself, and worry just a bit less.
I apologise if this makes me one of those bad posters here. I'm truly only trying to help.
I appreciate your honesty Toothpaste as you bring up some very valid points. I may post my concerns, but I surely don't boast my goals and accomplishments all over the place either. Granted, I'm not saying posting something your proud of is a bad thing. It's good to know there are successful writers out there. But since your casing my threads, I took a peek at yours as well and the majority of them are in G & A. Which some might see that as being brainwashed with braggage. It gets old after a while.
No offense, I wish you all the best...but to constantly post over and over again and not much anywhere else says something about you too.