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I haven't read that particular article yet, but I do follow that review site (and a couple of other ones) when looking for recommendations/reviews of m/m.
I am aware that blog does have some issues with some het females writing m/m stuff (which I could sort of understand in some ways, sort of).
BUT don't think it's disrespectful to include m/f as long as:
1)the focal relationship is on the m/m,
2) the sex is not too indepth (unless it's a mmf or something similar)
and/or
3) this is hinted at in blurb or is generally labeled. (NOT in the warnings/triggers section, though! Consensual sex should NOT be a trigger. I'm still annoyed that m/m sex was sometimes a warning--when it's already a m/m story!)
I'm one of those people who like to have a general sense what I'm sampling. I'm naturally picky, so I like for things to be labeled or hinted at. If I'm looking for m/f, there are millions (like there are white, male protagonists in media) of m/f out there. If I wanted m/m erotic romance/romance, I'd better be getting m/m (or m/m/m, etc). Same with my m/f.
(I'm the same with same with BDSM. If I wanted that, I would want it labeled as such. I wouldn't want a book that started vanilla and then had some BDSM elements thrown in halfway halfwayor in the end.)
I wonder why I think like this, though? I can't really explain it... I do read erotic lesbian stuff, (and I think I may be bi?), so I don't think it's because of the female body, lol.
Maybe it's because I prefer to read sweet m/f, which is why I read Harlequins and Historical Romances? Hmm...
I am aware that blog does have some issues with some het females writing m/m stuff (which I could sort of understand in some ways, sort of).
BUT don't think it's disrespectful to include m/f as long as:
1)the focal relationship is on the m/m,
2) the sex is not too indepth (unless it's a mmf or something similar)
and/or
3) this is hinted at in blurb or is generally labeled. (NOT in the warnings/triggers section, though! Consensual sex should NOT be a trigger. I'm still annoyed that m/m sex was sometimes a warning--when it's already a m/m story!)
I'm one of those people who like to have a general sense what I'm sampling. I'm naturally picky, so I like for things to be labeled or hinted at. If I'm looking for m/f, there are millions (like there are white, male protagonists in media) of m/f out there. If I wanted m/m erotic romance/romance, I'd better be getting m/m (or m/m/m, etc). Same with my m/f.
(I'm the same with same with BDSM. If I wanted that, I would want it labeled as such. I wouldn't want a book that started vanilla and then had some BDSM elements thrown in halfway halfwayor in the end.)
I wonder why I think like this, though? I can't really explain it... I do read erotic lesbian stuff, (and I think I may be bi?), so I don't think it's because of the female body, lol.
Maybe it's because I prefer to read sweet m/f, which is why I read Harlequins and Historical Romances? Hmm...