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Hathor

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I'm not an expert, but that never stopped me from giving my opinion.

If the first rejection included suggested revisions that made your book stronger, I think a thank you is in order. Other than that, I don't think it necessary. You would just be adding to the agent's email load.

I don't see why you shouldn't query the other agent. If they wanted a rejection from one to be considered a rejection by both, they could have said so. They didn't.

Sorry about the R.
 

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Good luck, Peggy! I'll keep voting.

An etiquette question: Just got a rejection on a full from an agent who did a second read of the manuscript -- she did the first one in the fall, and I requeried her after revising. So my question is: Is it good form to send a brief thank you email or should I just stay silent.

I'm not sure if there are rules on this too. But I always send a VERY brief thank you for them taking the time to read it. I (and this may be a personal decision) think it's rude not to. Could it annoy them that they get one more email in their inbox? Maybe. But I'm already rejected and I'd feel like I was rude not to send a thank you. Because I truly am grateful that they took the time to read it.
 

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Most agents say a thank you isn't required and that they don't pay any attention to follow up emails; after all, they're just doing their jobs. I don't think it hurts to say thanks for the feedback (if you got some); otherwise, I probably wouldn't send a thank you. But yes, absolutely, query the other agent unless their website says not to.

Thanks for the vote! I think we're less than one per cent apart now. Nail-bitingly close!
 

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Thanks for the advice, guys. I went ahead and queried Agent Better-Match and kept silent on thanking the other one. She didn't give me feedback on either read, and I thanked her in advance for her time when I emailed her the full, so I think I'm covered.
 

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An etiquette question: Just got a rejection on a full from an agent who did a second read of the manuscript -- she did the first one in the fall, and I requeried her after revising. So my question is: Is it good form to send a brief thank you email or should I just stay silent.


I never thank anyone for a for a form R.
 

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My boy child was badly injured at school. I'm actually hoping speedy agent doesn't reply for a while because I don't think I could deal with that and the boy child at the same time. For once, I'm thankful for my silent inbox.
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My boy child was badly injured at school. I'm actually hoping speedy agent doesn't reply for a while because I don't think I could deal with that and the boy child at the same time. For once, I'm thankful for my silent inbox.
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Hope everything gets better for you mate :S
 

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Thanks, careful.

He was hit in the face with a ball and then pitched forward and smacked his face on the pavement. Both front teeth were broken (big chunks missing) and have cracks all through them. On top of that, both teeth were jammed into his gums. The next two weeks are critical. We're hoping he can keep them-but treatment is going to go on for years :( Poor kid. He really had a bad day. But he's awesome. I mean really awesome. He didn't cry and the dentist was able to close the teeth without any freezing. Other than the advil I gave him before bed, he hasn't wanted any pain meds. I am not that brave. I'd have been begging for morphine.
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Now I have a new problem: keeping an active 7-year-old on the couch for two weeks. And there are only so many ways you can make eggs and mashed potatoes and that's all he can eat for the next two weeks.
 

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Oh, the poor little kid (and the poor mother, too). Try telling yourself that modern dentistry is remarkable. My husband tripped on a mountain trail once and broke his fall with his face. His teeth were a mess, but he was brave and got through it all. Your little guy will, too.
 

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Oh, poor guy! poor you! One step at a time, lady. Have you guys watched "Avatar: the Last Airbender" ( not movie) the series on Nickelodeon from several years back. He would probably really like it, and it was a nice show to watch together for us. That might help. Also, the live action Peter Pan from a few years ago (not a musical) was AWESOME. perfect for that age - and you!

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Thanks everyone. This thread is awesome.

So far the x-box is keeping him entertained. And his birthday is in a few days. That will help.

The problem with his teeth is that the nerves were exposed for a couple hours. When the nerve is exposed, that's when root canals are needed or the tooth dies. The doc is hoping we closed it fast enough to skip the root canals. And his gums were severely traumatized. They bled for HOURS. And they're still swollen. Poor kid. He has no luck at all.

Good thing I like mashed potatoes.
 

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Mmmm mashed potatoes. Sorry Carleree, that sucks :(
 

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We just beat the Bruins. Does that make you feel better, on general principles?
 

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Oh, Carleree, I'm so sorry to hear that. Poor little tyke. Let's hope it all works out well. And there are scrambled eggs and oatmeal and Wonderbread and baked beans and all kinds of soft mashy things that maybe he'd enjoy?
 
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Oh, Carleree, I'm so sorry to hear that. Poor little tyke. Let's hope it all works out well. And there are scrambled eggs and oatmeal and Wonderbread and baked beans and all kinds of soft mashy thing that maybe he'd enjoy?
Sadly, no. He's picky. But he'll eat rice and soup. And if I'm super careful, I'll spoon-feed him myself to make sure his front teeth aren't involved and get him something he really likes. :)
 

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Thanks, careful.

He was hit in the face with a ball and then pitched forward and smacked his face on the pavement. Both front teeth were broken (big chunks missing) and have cracks all through them. On top of that, both teeth were jammed into his gums. The next two weeks are critical. We're hoping he can keep them-but treatment is going to go on for years :( Poor kid. He really had a bad day. But he's awesome. I mean really awesome. He didn't cry and the dentist was able to close the teeth without any freezing. Other than the advil I gave him before bed, he hasn't wanted any pain meds. I am not that brave. I'd have been begging for morphine.
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Now I have a new problem: keeping an active 7-year-old on the couch for two weeks. And there are only so many ways you can make eggs and mashed potatoes and that's all he can eat for the next two weeks.

Oh gosh, I'm sorry. I can't imagine trying to keep my 7 yo quiet for two hours, let alone two weeks.

Has your son thought of ice cream yet? That was my 7 yo's first words after hearing he had to avoid hard foods after a tooth extraction last year. And it was the only words we heard for days........

Hope your little guy feels better soon.
 

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Oh gosh, I'm sorry. I can't imagine trying to keep my 7 yo quiet for two hours, let alone two weeks.

Has your son thought of ice cream yet? That was my 7 yo's first words after hearing he had to avoid hard foods after a tooth extraction last year. And it was the only words we heard for days........

Hope your little guy feels better soon.
Thanks, hon. I thought of ice cream, but the specialist said he can't have anything cold or hot for the next two weeks. No ice cream for him. But he really is doing well. Four teeth are squished and the gums are angry, but he's hardly complaining. I, on the other hand, have gone back to spoon feeding him so he doesn't bang any of those teeth.

Now I remember why I stopped at two kids. I couldn't handle spoon feeding like this every night for a year again.
 

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Sorry about your hockey game last night.

I woke up thinking of your little guy. Having recently gone through a soft food phase myself, I thought I'd list some other possibilities. Of course, if your son is a picky eater, he may be perfectly happy to spend weeks eating the same foods. :Shrug:

Hot cereal (cooled off) -- oatmeal, cream of wheat, grits
Soups (cooled off) -- anything non lumpy
Grains -- rice, quinoa, barley, polenta (cooked from corn meal, not bought in a tube)
Couscous (the tiny kind, not the Israeli kind)
Mashed root veggies -- potatoes, yams, parsnips (recently discovered this one, delicious, sort of like potato but sweeter)
Squash -- yeah, you said he's picky; something like butternut squash can be cooked and blended -- no longer identifiable ;)
Red lentils -- tiny, turn to a sort of mush when cooked
Pureed fruit -- applesauce, any other fruit that appeals
Yogurt -- regular, soy
Tofu -- I know this might be a hard sell; I have a nice dessert recipe with silken tofu and pureed pumpkin from a can that's simple -- if he likes pumpkin and you want to give it a go, I can share

Hang in there, hon. You both will get through this.
 

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Oh no! Poor kiddo! I'm so sorry, Carleree. I hope the damage is minimal and that he recovers quickly. D:
 
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