I wrote a sci-fi novel that has 90% men and very few women. My question is...can a female write from a man's point of view?
Absolutely, and many authors do a great job of writing cross gender characters, not to mention other characters who differ from then in various ways.
I certainly don't want every character I write to be a clone of me: female, white, heterosexual, middle aged living in early 21st century, educated etc. Gender is one of many things that people filter their experiences and perceptions through, and people experience it in different ways. The secret is not to get hung up on whether or not "a typical man" or "a typical woman" would do or think or feel the things your character does, but whether or not these things make sense to your character in their situation.
In any case, how many of us are "typical" for our gender in all, or even most, respects?
And why did we never (or if we did I don't recall) have other ST people wanting to be a robot? After all, Data seems to have all the advantages.... I've seen the trope elsewhere, tho.
There was an episode in STNG where there was a boy who wanted to be a robot like Data. I think they convinced him he was being dysfunctional, though. I always assumed Data was the way he was as a sort of anti Spock. He had what Spock had always craved--an existence based on pure logic, untainted by human (or even Vulcan) frailty and emotion, yet he didn't want it. I admit, I liked the character, though there was the paradox of "longing for" what you didn't have being, in essence, an emotional experience.
A cliche (or trope, perhaps) I don't especially care for is gender-segregated magic (or worse yet, magic that can't be used by women at all). I've read and enjoyed some books like this (Wizard of Earthsea comes to mind), but I like to see fantasy where magic levels the playing field between the genders, rather than making society even more sexist and segregated than it was historically. Maybe that's wish fulfillment on my part, but ergh, if I want to read stories where women are restricted to traditional roles, I'll read historic fiction, not speculative.
And I think the trope where men get to do the magic because women have this "amazing" ability to bring forth life with their bodies should die in a fire.