Yep, the other night while trying to fall asleep it all hit me! I was having problems with my one characters motivations, and how she would react after this horrible thing happened to her, and freaking out it all didnt make sense when i realized ITS NOT SUPPOSE TO MAKE SENSE!
I kept listening to others tell me "that's not a normal reaction" or "the motivation always need to make sense because....."
But then i realized HELLO my Characters arent ANYWHERE CLOSE TO NORMAL! So why would i expect any of them to react normally? Why did i expect them to have rational motivations? They wouldnt! So everything i had originally planned DID make sense for my characters!
New lesson i learned: Trust yourself.