"not a civil rights issue" is getting some play. if anyone who votes that way would like to express their views and rationale on that point, i'd be interested in seeing it.
People don't have an inherent "right" to get married. Really, they can't. Why? Marriage is a social construct, not a natural state of being. The purpose of marriage--anthropologically speaking--is primarily protection for spouses (wives, usually) and children. It's also about creating a social framework to identify relations, for the purposes of social cohesion and wider-scale protection, in a tribal sense.
To put it another way, you marry to start a family, so that the family can be readily identified as such and function among other families.
Now, we have largely forgotten this and--by and large--look at marriage as a product of "love," a nebulous concept that cannot be legally defined, imo. People say they marry out of love, so that they can just "be" with the object of their affection. But people can always do that. Nothing stands in their way. Yet, they still want to call it "marriage."
At the same time, marriage has also become a means of accessing privileges. That's the real problem, imo. Those linkages should be broken. As an example, health insurance: companies originally provided such as a simple benefit to employees, as a means of both attracting and retaining such. And insurance benefits were extended to families for the same reason. But we know not everyone has a traditional family. Some people have no family. So they lose those potential benefits. The fix here is to not have marriage be the defining parameter. Rather than getting to include your spouse and children in the plan, you should instead get, say, one more adult and all dependent children. Or maybe one more dependent adult and all dependent children. Whatever. Take marriage out of the equation.
Because, you see, marriage is supposed to have real costs, first and foremost. You get married and you assume financial responsibility--for instance--for someone else, and visa-versa.
The benefits are supposed to be at a personal level.
So, that's why I don't see it as a civil rights issue.
Having said all that, I'm not opposed to gay marriage, at all. The state should allow a civil union between any two consenting adults, such that they are legally obligated to each other and receive the same benefits as any other two adults in a civil union. The term "marriage" is inconsequential. As far as I'm concerned, two people can claim they are married and can refer to each other as spouses/husbands/wives/whatever. I have no problem seeing them in the way they choose to be seen, in this regard.