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My ambition to write historical novels has set me up for a major problem decades in the making!
Casual sex in historical novels, whether "realistic" works such as those of John Jakes, or romance novels, has always bugged the living crap out of me. Even in this day and age people have to think and make a lot of decisions, and such behavior has always made the characters look like idiots to me and made me lose patience with the story. I thought I could "go one better" by writing about the choices a character might conceivably make under certain circumstances in "real life." Of course, historical research shows that even bright people are not always saints in real life.
So now I have this main character whose traits are, somewhat temperamental, impulsive, NOT AT ALL SHY, extremely emotional, rather romantic, perfectionist and EXTREMELY COMPETITIVE, with high standards for himself and everybody else, churchgoing but not overly religious. If he was dumpy-looking, I'd have absolutely no problem with him not getting any in the 19th Century (he's born in 1843 American midwest, so hardly a hotbed of easily-obtained debauchery) but we're talking a guy who, had he lived in America during any time from the 1940s on, would have virtually no chance of being a virgin past the age of 17 as he'd be unable to beat the hordes of attacking women off with a stick. Things were different in the 19th Century, though. In the 20th Century this guy would also be popular with women and have a lot of dates, but if in the 19th Century a man didn't call on a woman unless interested in marrying her, that could also be very different. I guess part of the book is to show this, that no matter what teenagers go through now with a confusing array of choices, there were times not long ago, and places, even now, when things were very different.
About the only thing I'm not having a problem with is his family's attitudes and advice. I pretty well see where they're coming from, and why, and I have some idea of the society and will learn more as I go along.
Can anyone offer any sources to help understand the struggles of a young 19th Century man, devastatingly attractive through no fault of his own, poor thing, who is trying to maintain any standards of morality--not just "giving in," but constantly questioning himself? By the way, he has what today would be regarded as an extremely healthy sex drive, but in the climate of that time one wonders if some guys didn't look on themselves as monsters for entertaining such feelings. If he gets past 18 without getting any, but a large part of his motivation is, the only available women are low sorts who might give him a disease, try to trap him into supporting them, or both, does that make him in any way wimpy? Because he is acting in large part for self-preservation and not just out of some noble ideal of womanhood? He can be kind of reckless in other ways. Is it realistic that a person who is reckless as far as taking other physical risks would be at all cautious regarding sex? ("Hey, I'm crazy, not stupid.") Yes, people can be contradictory but am I trying to do the impossible here?
Exactly how guilty would he feel over wanting sex if he's not supposed to have it (young, unmarried) or, for that matter, over not having it? How central was having sex to "proving" your manhood in that time and place? He would, of course, entertain some degree of resentment to guys who are "getting some"--this is unavoidable--SIMPLY because these guys must have overcome any mental moral hurdles with which he is struggling--but I want to be careful that when observing some lowlife jizzbag, he does form an opinion as to this behavior but does not come across as so judgemental as to put off readers. If I don't force him into doing this (he's putting up a good fight, doggone him, but I'm that proud of him too) how much will people attack the author for being "some idealistic female who doesn't really understand men" and for writing a "totally unrealistic story which would never be like that in real life" because, OF COURSE, everyone, everywhere, at every time, unless they are the Phantom of the Opera or something, has sex before the age of 18 regardless of their time and place?
This is a real problem because he leaves home twice during his teens, the second time to go to the Civil War, where presumably a LOT of stuff would be going on! Just how inferior would he feel to guys who were "getting some," and how might he express these feelings? (I think it's unavoidable that he gets into a lot of fights.)
Are there any works of fiction or nonfiction which can help me with this? Thanks for any suggestions! Strange to say, this is my main problem with the whole book!
Casual sex in historical novels, whether "realistic" works such as those of John Jakes, or romance novels, has always bugged the living crap out of me. Even in this day and age people have to think and make a lot of decisions, and such behavior has always made the characters look like idiots to me and made me lose patience with the story. I thought I could "go one better" by writing about the choices a character might conceivably make under certain circumstances in "real life." Of course, historical research shows that even bright people are not always saints in real life.
So now I have this main character whose traits are, somewhat temperamental, impulsive, NOT AT ALL SHY, extremely emotional, rather romantic, perfectionist and EXTREMELY COMPETITIVE, with high standards for himself and everybody else, churchgoing but not overly religious. If he was dumpy-looking, I'd have absolutely no problem with him not getting any in the 19th Century (he's born in 1843 American midwest, so hardly a hotbed of easily-obtained debauchery) but we're talking a guy who, had he lived in America during any time from the 1940s on, would have virtually no chance of being a virgin past the age of 17 as he'd be unable to beat the hordes of attacking women off with a stick. Things were different in the 19th Century, though. In the 20th Century this guy would also be popular with women and have a lot of dates, but if in the 19th Century a man didn't call on a woman unless interested in marrying her, that could also be very different. I guess part of the book is to show this, that no matter what teenagers go through now with a confusing array of choices, there were times not long ago, and places, even now, when things were very different.
About the only thing I'm not having a problem with is his family's attitudes and advice. I pretty well see where they're coming from, and why, and I have some idea of the society and will learn more as I go along.
Can anyone offer any sources to help understand the struggles of a young 19th Century man, devastatingly attractive through no fault of his own, poor thing, who is trying to maintain any standards of morality--not just "giving in," but constantly questioning himself? By the way, he has what today would be regarded as an extremely healthy sex drive, but in the climate of that time one wonders if some guys didn't look on themselves as monsters for entertaining such feelings. If he gets past 18 without getting any, but a large part of his motivation is, the only available women are low sorts who might give him a disease, try to trap him into supporting them, or both, does that make him in any way wimpy? Because he is acting in large part for self-preservation and not just out of some noble ideal of womanhood? He can be kind of reckless in other ways. Is it realistic that a person who is reckless as far as taking other physical risks would be at all cautious regarding sex? ("Hey, I'm crazy, not stupid.") Yes, people can be contradictory but am I trying to do the impossible here?
Exactly how guilty would he feel over wanting sex if he's not supposed to have it (young, unmarried) or, for that matter, over not having it? How central was having sex to "proving" your manhood in that time and place? He would, of course, entertain some degree of resentment to guys who are "getting some"--this is unavoidable--SIMPLY because these guys must have overcome any mental moral hurdles with which he is struggling--but I want to be careful that when observing some lowlife jizzbag, he does form an opinion as to this behavior but does not come across as so judgemental as to put off readers. If I don't force him into doing this (he's putting up a good fight, doggone him, but I'm that proud of him too) how much will people attack the author for being "some idealistic female who doesn't really understand men" and for writing a "totally unrealistic story which would never be like that in real life" because, OF COURSE, everyone, everywhere, at every time, unless they are the Phantom of the Opera or something, has sex before the age of 18 regardless of their time and place?
This is a real problem because he leaves home twice during his teens, the second time to go to the Civil War, where presumably a LOT of stuff would be going on! Just how inferior would he feel to guys who were "getting some," and how might he express these feelings? (I think it's unavoidable that he gets into a lot of fights.)
Are there any works of fiction or nonfiction which can help me with this? Thanks for any suggestions! Strange to say, this is my main problem with the whole book!