Age Differences In Relationships

highly disturbing of you billy.

Bravo said:

highly disturbing of you billy.

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Yeah..says the 24 year old.

huh?

but 36 yr olds shouldnt be dating 18 yr olds.

its your fault you whittled away your formative years on internet message boards instead of finding a wife.

but good luck!





P.S not 24 yet. but close

Bravo said:

huh?

but 36 yr olds shouldnt be dating 18 yr olds.

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I didn't say we should be.

I said it would be cool if it was a fad.

Talk to me when you're 36 about this idea and we'll see how you feel.

"Don't judge what you don't understand. You never walked in that man's shoes."
Elvis Presley
1972

Happy almost 24th.

Man, you are getting old.

Man, you are getting old.

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i know

Bravo said:

i know

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One, maybe two good years left.

Live baby.

Stop posting, start drinking for god's sakes and live!

But drink in moderation.

And how's your hairline? Still solid?

Limit time in sun and for god's sake stay at fighting weight.

And take Alpha Lipoic Acid, Co-Enzyme Q10, Vitamin C- Ester, Selenium, Vitamin E and a good multi-vitamin.

And excericse and drink tons of water.

Maybe you'll be able to hang in there a little longer.

Good luck!

A couple of months ago a guy was in my office working on our phone lines. At the end of the day, he came up to me and asked if I thought our receptionist would go out with him. I said, "DUDE! She's, like, 19!!" He said, "oh. Um, I thought she was older."

EVERY chick in my office, regardless of the age, was completely creeped out. He was probably pushing 40. It's funny that everyone's reaction to that was exactly the same.

Um, EEWW!

I have no idea why. He just seemed like a predator or something.

Carole said:

EVERY chick in my office, regardless of the age, was completely creeped out. He was probably pushing 40. It's funny that everyone's reaction to that was exactly the same.

Um, EEWW!

I have no idea why. He just seemed like a predator or something.

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Yeah, that is pretty spooky.

The girl I'm referring to works in a bookstore I frequently shop at, and we've chatted about books and authors for probably over a year. A few months ago, I made a comment about how I really liked her new haircut, and she blushed like crazy. Since then, let's just say our chats have been a little more intense.

I don't know. Is it wise to pursue this? Absolutely not. Am I smart and mature enough to make the right decision? Probably not.

There's a early 70's flick, Maude, that you should watch to get some ideas. Not the tv sitcom.

It depends on the person... I don't think it was the fact that he was pushing 40 that made you go "EEWWWW." It was the fact that he acted and sounded like a predator that did it.

I have been dating men 15 to 21 years younger than me for the last nine years. I would LOVE it if an attractive, happy man my age would look my way. I get told they think I am too young for them because I look a good 10 to 15 years younger than my actual age. Yet still something had to go down to personality. It isn't always easy after 40 to find someone who hasn't just become bogged down in life and hasn't forgotten to live.

maestrowork said:

It depends on the person... I don't think it was the fact that he was pushing 40 that made you go "EEWWWW." It was the fact that he acted and sounded like a predator that did it.

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Precisely! Some guys(and gals) just ooze sleeze. If they'd gotten to know each other, become friends, and moved on from there, no one would be half as worried.

I think love has no age limits however, I do believe that one's ability to act responsibly and handle that love effectively requires maturity. I believe that, on a global scale, very few people really ever learn how to handle love.

Too many distorted ideas of what love is all about.

Ultimately, my response to "does age matter" is to say yes it does to some extent. I feel the overall issue has less to do with age and more to do with emotional intelligence.

At 14 years old, my daughter has not gained enough emotional intelligence to have a boyfriend of say 21. On the flip side of that, a guy of 21 who would want a girlfriend age 14 obviously lacks emotional and intellectual intelligence. Why intellectual intelligence? because any 21 year old dumb enough to mess with my 14 year old daughter is also too dumb to realize what I would do to him if he did.


Gehanna

Casiopeia said:

It isn't always easy after 40 to find someone who hasn't just become bogged down in life and hasn't forgotten to live.

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I agree, and it's frustrating as hell. I'm also getting tired of listening to a litany of things my date just won't put up with, even if they're things I would never do in the first place. Gimme a break. I feel like I'm in a job interview or something. I'm all about information and research, and I am curious about the person, but when my mental list of her likes and dislikes is so imbalanced the "likes" column only contains likes to glare at waitresses and loves pasta, it really doesn't bode well.