If you remember, last fall I was working on a book(let) on our township in World War II. What I found out was that many of the men wouldn't talk about their experiences at all - a few of them did start talking as they got up close to 90, but even then, they'd talk about funny things that happened and avoid the horrors they'd experienced. They'd acknowledge they were here or there, but not much more. It was a traumatic experience. Puma
With regard to the men not talking about their experiences...
What happened to these young men (my father was 18 and pulled out of high school to serve) was so traumatic, and so out-of-the-ordinary, that to come home and start talking about it? With who? Your mum and dad? Your girlfriend or young wife? Your kids?
My dad did say he wanted to forget all about the war, but once when we were watching a talk show (Merv Griffin, I think) and a very tall actor was talking about his experience at Normandy - he said he watched men all around him drown because they were short and couldn't swim! I turned to my dad and said: What? There were soldiers being pushed out of boats and they couldn't swim?
He said, yep, and if the water went over their heads, they drowned. My dad was over six foot and a country boy so he could swim like a fish. He made it to the beach where most of his unit was killed. He was promoted on the beach and put in charge of a unit because so many officers had been killed.
He was also one of many young soldiers who were told by their commanding officers to 'look around and remember' what they saw in the concentration camps. But imagine how traumatic, how horrible this all was for them? There was no way to prepare for something like this. There was no TV so you couldn't turn on the news and see what was happening. You had to rely on newspapers and magazines. There were news reels in the movie theaters, but those were limited.
My dad preferred to tell us about passing out ice cream to German soldiers. (He later was an MP at a prison camp.) Or how he and some friends killed a swan when they were stationed in England. They were so sick of K-rations, they wanted some fresh meat. The swans were the property of HRH, so they got in trouble for doing that.
But to talk about the reality of war? How he saw his friends die before they even had a chance to fight? How he lost half his hearing from being so close to some large guns (cannons) on the beach. Nope. We had to pry this info. out of him and he gave us very little.
Finally, when the TV series, "Holocaust" was broadcast, he did open up a little with my sister. They sat and talked about the war, but I was married and not living at home. My sister has told me that our dad revealed some truly horrible things he experienced or witnessed, but she has never told me what they are.