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How does one know that?
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I will ask you one question as regards your view of sexual responsibility. You seem to be stating outright that a woman having sex means that one bears 100% responsibility for whatever comes of it and that the very act of having sex means that the woman loses all human rights, even the basic right of bodily autonomy. So two questions. 1. Should not the father also lose all such rights? Should fatherhood create an enslaved state wherein the father, since he cannot carry the child, must give up everything in life to care for the mother and the child? 2. Can you name any other action that should cause this giving up of bodily autonomy? So far the only things I can think of are capital offenses. But even those have limits. We do not, for example, allow capital prisoners to be used involuntarily for medical experiments which could save thousands of lives. Why is sex so different from all other human actions that it takes away all human autonomy, from one and only one of its participants?
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Dog is good, all the time.
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The best analogy I can come up with is that if a parent is caring for, let's say, an infant (since they are the most physically demanding), and becomes unable or unwilling to continue to do so, that parent cannot stuff the infant into a closet or a garbage can or an abandoned building. That parent must continue to care for the infant until such time as the parent can find alternative care. If the parent cannot not find alternative care immediately, there would be a period of time in which the parent would be required to feed, clothe, shelter and carry around that infant. If not, the parent would be accused of child abandonment, endangerment, and--if the infant died--some form of murder/manslaughter. Quote:
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Sophipygian
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You cannot have it both ways. |
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I agree that the exception for rape and incest has more to do with how socially repugnant the acts are. Because it is possible for a woman to be raped without falling into depression or becoming that emotionally unstable, perpetually terrified stereoype that we always see on television and in movies. Likewise, it is possible to be in a consensual incestuous relationship.
So when we make exceptions for rape and incest, but not birth defects or mental health issues, we're saying that neither of the latter two are the reason we are okay with aborting a rape or incest baby. It is remarkable how easy it is to no longer see the fetus as "a life" if they are a product of something we find really distasteful. Even Chrissy's example of leaving the baby on the doorstep--if pro-lifers believe abortion is murder, are they now advocating the murder of a child left on their doorstep? Of course not. Because if you make an exception for anything other than the life of the mother, abortion is only murder 'sometimes.' The rape and incest exceptions will always be inconsistent. Any explanations of why they 'make sense' as the only two non-life threatening exceptions will always be flimsy. It doesn't make sense.
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Dog is good, all the time.
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This didn't make me feel, though, that abortion should be legal in all cases. When the one woman's life was at risk--obviously. What it made me feel was this: what a horrible time for women to live, dependent on men, with the shame of unwed pregnancy, and without education of or easy access to birth control. I don't think it's trying to have it both ways, Alessandra. My freedom to do whatever I want ends at the point when I harm someone else. That's the way I look at it, and I don't see it as contradictory. |
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Dog is good, all the time.
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Delerium ex Ennui
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The fetus has something to do with it, though. It's the result.
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The only person you seem to acknowledge in this is the fetus. |
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It's been proven time and again that women do not generally abort late term unless there is a big important reason. All these anti-choice laws are about controlling the woman and stripping her rights. Most abortions are done before the zygote even becomes a fetus. It has no ability to live on its own. Why then should the rights of potential but not yet viable life overtake that of a living breathing free thinking woman? I still will never get the logic that says "Yep, that potential life is more important than your existing life."
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Moderation in All Things
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I see abortion as a matter of conflicting rights, not that one party has rights while the other does not. The law is often about conflicting rights. I have the right to life, but I don't have the right to steal from another to sustain that life.
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I'm assuming she meant "someone who isn't at fault." It's not as if the fetus decides to be the result of a horrible act.
And @Chrissy I actually have issues with pro-choice advocates constantly bringing up the "what if she was raped" scenario because it really is an emotional appeal. Regardless of how the woman became pregant, for a lot of pro-lifers, the question will always be "but is it worth murder" and with most scenarios outside of a threat to the mother's life, the reasonable answer is 'no'. Asking a politician if they'd suddenly become pro-choice is their daughter was raped is the pro-choice equivalent of waving around those posters of mangled sixth month old babies.
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Dog is good, all the time.
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Good points, all. I want to respond, and I will continue to meditate. I have to go to see a client, waaaah, so I can't play hookey today.
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A fetus is not a "person."
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How does one know that?
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Laws like the current one remove all rights from the mother past 20 weeks regardless of viability or any other consideration. It is precisely the lack of conflict of rights that makes this law and the standard pro-life position egregious.
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How does one know that?
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I brought in a circumstance where another act (murder) requires that a person take on full responsibility. So I asked an analogous question, should a person who has committed murder give up their rights to health and bodily integrity for the good of others. For example, can they be used in medical experiments or as involuntary organ donation. Sex is unique in that it leads to procreation, but it is not unique in giving responsibility for the lives of others. I ask again, should someone who performs another act that takes on such a responsibility have to surrender their health and bodily integrity?
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How does one know that?
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Closer to the OP (but across the pond), here's an article from a doctor in the UK who performs abortions talking about the circumstances under which people seek them.
http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/a-bp...?utm_hp_ref=uk
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But I was wondering why I, as a staunch pro-choicer, get extra upset at the idea that some want to make it illegal even in cases of rape. And I think it comes down to the fact that I'm so upset about how rape victims are treated to begin with. MissesDash is right, of course. Not all victims are traumatized or fall into depression. Everyone is an individual and reacts differently. But, regardless of how the rape may or may not affect the victim, doesn't negate the fact that someone, or some people, held the victim down and forced themselves inside of her. Saying, "We don't care about your screams and cries. You don't matter." So I just get really upset with the thought of thereafter, more strangers saying to that woman, "We don't care what you want to do. We're going to tell you. In fact, we're going to force you. (yet again)" Not to mention the stress of going through a rape trial while pregnant.
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Dog is good, all the time.
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As far as "only acknowledging the fetus", hopefully the above paragraph proves that is not so. Plus, I have fully acknowledged risks to the mother's life as taking precedence. However, considering the current pro-abortion laws and my view of the fetus, my response to the idea that I champion the fetus is, someone has to. My whole life I have rooted for the underdog. The fetus is the underdog under current law. Quote:
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Last edited by Chrissy; 06-15-2012 at 02:14 AM. Reason: Because, apparently, I cannot spell. |
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Now, you can rally to help a woman overcome that challenge but what you cannot do is moralise, pontificate and legislate that the fetus must be born at all costs. That is deleterious to the woman's and the fetus'/child's health. |
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Dog is good, all the time.
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ETA: When a woman has consensual sex, she is in control of her own life. When a woman is raped, she has no control of her life or the outcome. That is not fair or just. I go back and forth, obviously, on this issue. Last edited by Chrissy; 06-15-2012 at 02:27 AM. |
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Dog is good, all the time.
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Delerium ex Ennui
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The moment you find out you're pregnant, you might not be happy. But you build up the hormones, especially after the morning sickness resolves. At which point, I'm going to leave it to a doctor to give further specifics.
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How does one know that?
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You assert that you oppose abortion because of continuity, i.e. a zygote can grow into a fetus can grow into a child so therefore a zygote is a fetus is a child. By that chain of reasoning since we are all destined to die we might as well treat everyone as already a corpse. But even if you treat that as hyperbole your reasoning is false since a zygote can't grow on its own. It is fed from the woman's body, protected by her body, and cannot exist without it until it becomes a viable fetus. So. Your position seems to be that there is a single unique circumstance -- pregnancy -- in which a human being must surrender all autonomy. And the uniqueness of that cirucumstance arises because why? Because it comes about naturally? Or because it comes about by sex? You claim not to be treating pregnancy as punishment for sex, but you clearly regard sex as somehow unique among all human activites. Why? Why is sex different from any other form of incursion of responsibility? Why is pregnancy the only condition that makes it necessary for person A to give their life to person B without any recourse and where person A is supposed to go along with it absolutely where even murderers have more rights? And as for being champion of the fetus. Haven't you noticed all these discussions are happening because people in power are willing, eager, snd happy to sacrifice the lives of women for the sake of fetuses? And their implicit justification is that having sex is enough to override all other considerations.
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