Would you have walked around and asked for tips?

I had to work on Easter Sunday. I thought, no big huge deal. I'll work and get out of there then get home to make dinner and spend time with my family then.

I'm a banquet server. Today was a little different though. Today we worked for cash tips instead of the tips being pooled and taxed and put into my check. Which, btw, I like so I don't owe mucho taxes later. So everyone at my work has a certain amount of tables to serve except me. I was to keep the coffee stations filled. At the end of the day 15 percent of the tips went to the captains, 5 percent went to the bartender and you were expected to tip out the runners which I thought included me since I was running for coffee and keeping the stations filled with it. Also we as servers were going to get to eat as a work family at the sea food buffet after the place emptied out.

We quit seating people and the servers started tipping out and counting their fat wads of cash. People's moods were lifted, everyone smiling about the tips they had made. I hung around expecting a few bucks to float my way but none never came. I then decided perhaps I was going to get tipped when we were able to eat the delicious food which included huge crab legs and prime rib.

My captain walks up to me while I was helping to clear peoples tables and asks if I had taken my break yet. Well no one was taking breaks but I now am learning what is coming next. I say no. Then he says, "why don't you go take your break." He waits for my reply. "Okay," I said. Then he followed with and when you're done clock out and go home.

I'm new at work so I just smile and tell him okay. I didn't even bother to take a break or ask if I could eat at the buffet, he wouldn't have let me anyway. It's again the rules to eat while customers are eating. I just clocked out and went home. No tips were given to me so I worked a holiday on min wage. I missed church and Easter morning with my family so I could earn money to feed my family and ended up with a 30.00 day.

If people, even management, didn't think to give me a cut in the tips which is what I mostly work for should I have asked them for some money before I went home?

I thought about it but I was too embarrassed to ask for money. I don't think I should have had to ask.

I sent my boss an email telling her I made no tips on Easter and told her that I'm mostly the person who is asked to go home when people need to be cut.

Thanks for letting me unload.

Easter was a bummer.

I guess I should have asked the managers but I figured they had it done for me since they all knew I didn't have any tables and when one of them asked me to go home I just got angry and left. That's bad management if you ask me. No one had to ask for tips not even the set up guys. One of the captains asked me if I had some cash for them and I said that I didn't have a section. That should have tipped him off.

Oh, well. I hope my boss responds to my email well too. I think this is a lesson for them to make sure everyone gets tipped.

Thanks for your support.

Terri

Her explanation... I was making double time. Which is 12.50 and hour. That sucks even worse. They chose me because I was at the bottom of the list (but the guy that was hired after me was a server) and the other people who were scheduled to do the same as me all called in. Smart people. When they ask people to go home they ask from the bottom up. Well I'm fourth from the bottom but the first to go. And there were two guys hired after me that got to serve and stay.

I got the shaft. My confidence in this job is lost. I thought I was doing good as a banquet server, now I know otherwise and I know why I'm getting treated so rudely. Now I also know why one of the captains always picks on the little things with me. He wants me out.

I think I'll find another job.

I've never fit into this world as strange as that sounds. I struggle to fit into any group of people. I was severely abused until I was well into my 20's. Then lost my mom due to her drug abuse 1 and a half years ago. I try to fit in to society but I feel like a puzzle piece to a different puzzle.

I find it very hard to relate to other females especially ones in powerful positions and ones who grew up in a "regular" household. I literally shy away and say nothing more than hello or how are you. I would be terrified to meet you people in person because I'm so different than people who have never been severely abused. If I didn't have to feed my family I would never leave the house.

I heard a woman in a movie say, when asked, "What's your story?" She replied, "Nothing, I'm just me."

I gasped when I heard it. What I wouldn't give to be able to say that and mean it. I wondered what me as a person would be like if I had grown up with guidance and direction and education. I'm not saying life is all good when growing up but my comprehension its self when it comes to normal things is non existent. I read some of these threads here and have no clue on how normal conversations happen like they do. I'm unable to do it. I can't engage in intelligent conversation and it's terrible. Which is why I don't read a lot. I don't understand the sentences which is also why I don't crit a lot of work. I'll say something and I get from people that they don't understand me or don't know what I'm talking about.

I hate that over the last few years I've learned this about myself because it makes me withdraw so much more.

I do realize that I do have my moments, though, and I can offer sound advice here and there and that's what keeps me going. Or that I can help someone in need but overall I prefer my shell with as few people picking me up to admire me as possible.

Thanks ladies!

I'm going tomorrow to look into a job taking care of mentally disabled adults. If there's anyone in the world I love it's someone who's mentally challenged. They don't get judgment (understand)and they are totally free in spirit. Well, those who havn't been abused.

I'm off to get an In-N-Out burger.