HD: you've already received some great advice here. If your friend has other redeeming qualities, by all means maintain the friendship, but don't ever show her your work again or mention your writing. You need to protect your WIPs.
My SO said something similar when I mentioned a news article that would have made a great idea for a short story (he said "I would never read it, and I don't know anyone who'd be interested in that story."). That started a huge argument and killed the idea. To add insult to injury, 8 months later I read a story in the market I was going to submit to on the same idea! Looking back, it was stupid of me to bounce ideas off of him because (1) I write women's fiction and (2) he's read one novel and no short stories in all the years I've known him. Being a typical know-it-all guy, he also thinks he has wonderful story ideas that I should pursue ("You should write a story about tattoos!" "Uh, and?" "That's it! A story about tattoos. Isn't that a great idea? I'm good at coming up with ideas." "Yes, dear, you are. "). He also thinks that he could write a novel if he had the time. He doesn't mean to be insulting. He's just clueless. I love him anyway.
Yes, loved ones are great, but understand that your friends and family may be absolutely clueless when it comes to your personal goals (and vice versa). Now that you know your best friend is a toxic critiquer, keep the writing away from her. Don't even mention it to her anymore if need be. I hide my writing from pretty much everyone now to protect it and to keep the drama on the page instead of IRL. But also remember that your writing is not you, and if there are other valuable things about your relationship, keep those in mind as well.
Above all, never give up! Keep practicing your craft. Everything worthwhile takes practice and patience.
ETA: time to trot out my favorite quote regarding critics.
"Critics are like eunuchs in a harem. They're there every night, they see it done every night, they see how it should be done every night, but they can't do it themselves." -- Brendan Francis Behan
My SO said something similar when I mentioned a news article that would have made a great idea for a short story (he said "I would never read it, and I don't know anyone who'd be interested in that story."). That started a huge argument and killed the idea. To add insult to injury, 8 months later I read a story in the market I was going to submit to on the same idea! Looking back, it was stupid of me to bounce ideas off of him because (1) I write women's fiction and (2) he's read one novel and no short stories in all the years I've known him. Being a typical know-it-all guy, he also thinks he has wonderful story ideas that I should pursue ("You should write a story about tattoos!" "Uh, and?" "That's it! A story about tattoos. Isn't that a great idea? I'm good at coming up with ideas." "Yes, dear, you are. "). He also thinks that he could write a novel if he had the time. He doesn't mean to be insulting. He's just clueless. I love him anyway.
Yes, loved ones are great, but understand that your friends and family may be absolutely clueless when it comes to your personal goals (and vice versa). Now that you know your best friend is a toxic critiquer, keep the writing away from her. Don't even mention it to her anymore if need be. I hide my writing from pretty much everyone now to protect it and to keep the drama on the page instead of IRL. But also remember that your writing is not you, and if there are other valuable things about your relationship, keep those in mind as well.
Above all, never give up! Keep practicing your craft. Everything worthwhile takes practice and patience.
ETA: time to trot out my favorite quote regarding critics.
"Critics are like eunuchs in a harem. They're there every night, they see it done every night, they see how it should be done every night, but they can't do it themselves." -- Brendan Francis Behan
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