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    Quote Originally Posted by Reservoir Angel View Post
    Moaning and groaning is fine, screaming is not. Ever. If you full-on scream during orgasm, I will find you weird. .
    I don't know. I say if you haven't moved past moaning and groaning, then someone is not doing it right!

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    Dick - Just sounds nasty.

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    As a writer in the "adult" genre, I think it all depends on the context. Any word can be hot used correctly. I can't stand mainstream erotica and I don't write mainstream erotica. It's all in the eye of the beholder. "dick", "pussy", all the usual suspects, can either sound stupid and phony or they can be used quite effectively. Therefore, for me anyway, it's not the word(s) that's the problem, it's the setting, the way the word is used. And after all, you're gonna have to use many of the usual words in any adult writing whether you like it or not, otherwise your stuff will be pointless as a "turn on" mechanism. Any kind of "dirty talk" is fair game as long as it's authentic to the situation.
    Most mainstream erotica is dull, it's not genuine, and I write more in a hardcore style aimed at the male audience, so obviously I'm gonna use a lot of explicit dirty language. But again, it depends.....so, I'd have to say, there are NO words that make me gag. I think what you really mean is do they make you gag used in a phony way? yeah, "moan" "groan", "tool" "rod" "boner", "pussy", "plunge" all the rest of it DOES make me gag when used in a softcore dull Harlequin erotica style, but if you put that stuff where it belongs, no, it won't make me gag....

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    ^I agree whole heartedly. The words themselves can be ridiculous, though, if not used to effect.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sarah Madara View Post
    There are plenty of vocalizations above a moan but still sub-scream that seem perfectly reasonable to me.
    Muffled cry, ardent plea, @#$% me now...any of those work?
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    Quote Originally Posted by druid12000 View Post
    Muffled cry, ardent plea, @#$% me now...any of those work?
    I just got back from two weeks with family constantly in the next room. I'm thinking sometimes a scream is in order just because you can

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sarah Madara View Post
    I just got back from two weeks with family constantly in the next room. I'm thinking sometimes a scream is in order just because you can
    It sure would get their attention... Especially if you follow the scream with a terribly sexy moan... But then again, do you want your family to hear that?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sarah Madara View Post
    I just got back from two weeks with family constantly in the next room. I'm thinking sometimes a scream is in order just because you can
    Ayup. An empty house can be a wonderful libido enhancer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by druid12000 View Post
    ^I agree whole heartedly. The words themselves can be ridiculous, though, if not used to effect.
    Yes, very true. It's obvious to me that many of the examples in this thread that people object to as being ridiculous, hackneyed, stilted, etc. is because they're seeing them used in ridiculous, hackneyed, stilted, "erotica".. I recently wrote an adult ebook where the two main characters use a lot of dirty words, just cuz that's who they are, use of nasty language gets them off, they're perverts, swingers on their yearly orgy beach vacation, and that's part of who they are. Hopefully, a reader will "get" it and not say, "oh wow, boner again? rod? tool?" yeah, because it works in that setting.

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    We ought to have a thread of "turn on" sex words.
    We see here what doesn't work for a lot of us; I'd be interested in seeing what does.

    I often find myself stymied when it comes to writing sex scenes, which is a shame because my stories frequently require them.
    Everything sounds trite and cheesy. Everything sounds fake.
    I'm afraid my scene will only embarrass readers and make them uncomfortable, since it's an embarrassment even to me.
    I end up cutting it, and compromising the story.

    It would be helpful to me to have a thread where we discuss what works in erotic literature.
    What's not considered silly, cheesy, trite and embarrassing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bracken View Post
    It would be helpful to me to have a thread where we discuss what works in erotic literature.
    What's not considered silly, cheesy, trite and embarrassing.
    Include more than just "tab A/slot B" physical description. Include the other senses. Show what's going on in the POV character's head. Show what it is about the lust-object character that turns the POV character on (beyond "nice tits/package"). There's so much good characterization that can be packed into one really good sex scene. Show me who/how someone fucks, and I come away knowing a lot about them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bracken View Post
    I often find myself stymied when it comes to writing sex scenes, which is a shame because my stories frequently require them.
    Everything sounds trite and cheesy. Everything sounds fake.
    I'm afraid my scene will only embarrass readers and make them uncomfortable, since it's an embarrassment even to me.
    I end up cutting it, and compromising the story.
    Yup, me too.

    Stacia Kane, an AWer, has a series of blog posts called "How to be a Sex-Writing Strumpet." Don't have link handy but you can Google it. It's available as an e-book if not still on her blog. I've found her advice very helpful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bracken View Post
    We ought to have a thread of "turn on" sex words.
    We see here what doesn't work for a lot of us; I'd be interested in seeing what does.
    Check the rest of the threads in the "Erotica" category, and you'll find this thread, which is exactly what you're looking for, I think.

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    This thread has kept me mightily entertained while waiting for my membership to be approved. Thank you. I believe at "ooze" my husband requested I cease reading out choice funnies, lest he never touch my foo again. Yes, I submit "foo" as a silly ladypart word. Not to be used when trying to be sexy, and never in writing.

    And, I'm delighted to note that no-where in this thread have I seen "jutting proudly." As in, his erection jutting proudly. Most likely from his pubic thatch, I don't remember, but I distinctly remember laughing out loud during what was promising to be quite a steamy scene once his proud jutting commenced. :lol: Mmm, nice.

    I was writing an explicit section today and realised I only say cock. Not penis, not member, tool or manhood. Just cock is fine. Likewise breasts. I might have gotten a "creamy globes" in there at one point (I might now be cringing slightly with that admission). But breasts are breasts, no other word works for me (heaving bosom?!).

    Anyway, hello forum and thank you for an utterly hilarious thread!

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    I have a friend who jokingly calls her ladygarden her 'foofar'. She calls its male counterpart a tallywhacker.

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarletpeaches View Post
    I have a friend who jokingly calls her ladygarden her 'foofar'. She calls its male counterpart a tallywhacker.

    ...Actually, tallywhacker is quite awesome.
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    I love tallywhacker, not sure why. Foofar seems weird to me, but I have always liked ladygarden. Must be all the flower references in the romances I read as a kid. And tally whacker makes me think of a tool you might use in a garden (weedwhacker anyone?). Ok, I just got a painful image, LOL.
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    Tallywhacker is fairly common. My brother-in-law was taught to call it his 'tally-ho.' First time they visited us here, he laughed uproariously at a local strip joint with that name. How fitting, huh?

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    My friend admitted that he is hung like a newborn babe! How sad . . .



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    The expression "creampie", for some reason, just makes me go ... It doesn't really turn me off, it's more of a "meh" thing, really.

    I mean, I get the inference, but really... it makes it hard for me to enjoy a Boston Cream donut... And I quite like them (and the more vulgar meaning of "creampie", but mixing the visuals kind of messes me up), too.

    Now, a "Cleveland Steamer"? Yeah, that does gross me out. Completely.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Feral_Sophisticate View Post
    Now, a "Cleveland Steamer"? Yeah, that does gross me out. Completely.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ZannaPerry View Post
    When I think of the word "plunged" it sounds like I'm working in a bathroom on a toliet.

    exactly what i was thinking!
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    I don't think there are any words that make me go , but i have to say, some of them mentioned in this thread has got me asking What?
    As an erotica writer, i'm not up to date with words and what they mean.

    Plunged, is definitely one of them, but i think i have an idea.
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