Doffed my hat to you. That's the spirit I prefer in a woman. I have absolutely no respect for a woman perpetually trapped in a maso-sadistic relationship...only pity perhaps. A hell of their own making.
I can't say I was ever a masochist, nor am I drawn to sadists, and most of the men I've known have been far more nice than nasty. But I did have the attitude that it was always me who had to be understanding, sweet and gentle, no matter what he did.
I've been married twice, and both of those men are EXTREMELY difficult; and yet in almost diametrically opposite ways!
My first husband was a professional musician, and he was just crazy-difficult; he was high-energy, talked non-stop and couldn't stay in one place or with one thing for an instant. He was very funny and entertaining and upbeat, but really, no woman could keep up with him. It was as if he constantly gave off electric sparks.
My second husband is just the opposite; think Eeyore.
Sorry, I'm laughing as I read this, because if you had every had the (NOT) pleasure of meeting my F-I-L, you would understand why. I swear on all that is holy, people came to the funeral just to make sure he was gone, and they didn't make any bones about it! They don't come any more difficult that him, although I really hope you're right and that he is the exception to the rule.
