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My daughter, aged 9, has consistently maintained that she does not want to grow up. It's true that being a baby was good for her, I spoiled her, her dad spoiled her. She drank out of a bottle until she was five, and slept with me until ........well, even last night. She's a mama's girl, a wonderful child.
This child is so sensitive and thoughtful. She plans for my birthday and mother's day for days. She showers me constantly with "I love you" cards and verbal compliments. She tells me I'm the most beautiful person in the world - I'm the best mom - you name it ...........several times a day.
And she is concerned
about growing up and changing the status quo. On her birthday - she cries and cries. She's in a near panic.
Yesterday we spent all afternoon eating out, shopping and seeing a movie together, and she loved it. We are together 24/7. But last night, she was in a panic at bedtime, because she doesn't want to be 9, doesn't want to grow up. She's afraid someone will see me - a psycho - and follow me home and kill me. She's afraid I'll die.
Now, I know I worried about my parents dying when I was a child, but she's obsessed with this.
And, it's not like I can lie to her and tell her that parents don't die. They seldom want to, but sometimes it happens. And, recently - a woman my age was shot to death by a stalker - and we knew her daughter - a friend of my 17 year old. So, it's not like horrible things don't happen.
For those of you who will think :she'll get over it, it's normal. I'm not sure. It is my deepest fear, also, that something will happen to me and she will have her worst fears come true.
We have spiritual beliefs different then most people who live around here, so I'm pretty sure finding a counselor that might help her, and support our beliefs, would be nearly impossible.
It's been my pattern to discuss things with her, trying to calm her down. Last night, she was in a panic for over an hour. I told her that the fear of something happening is often worse then the actual event, and that she shouldn't worry about things she can't change - that I would never do anything to jeopardize my safety or my health - but what the heck else can I do?
Has anyone ever experienced anything like this before?
This child is so sensitive and thoughtful. She plans for my birthday and mother's day for days. She showers me constantly with "I love you" cards and verbal compliments. She tells me I'm the most beautiful person in the world - I'm the best mom - you name it ...........several times a day.
And she is concerned
about growing up and changing the status quo. On her birthday - she cries and cries. She's in a near panic.
Yesterday we spent all afternoon eating out, shopping and seeing a movie together, and she loved it. We are together 24/7. But last night, she was in a panic at bedtime, because she doesn't want to be 9, doesn't want to grow up. She's afraid someone will see me - a psycho - and follow me home and kill me. She's afraid I'll die.
Now, I know I worried about my parents dying when I was a child, but she's obsessed with this.
And, it's not like I can lie to her and tell her that parents don't die. They seldom want to, but sometimes it happens. And, recently - a woman my age was shot to death by a stalker - and we knew her daughter - a friend of my 17 year old. So, it's not like horrible things don't happen.
For those of you who will think :she'll get over it, it's normal. I'm not sure. It is my deepest fear, also, that something will happen to me and she will have her worst fears come true.
We have spiritual beliefs different then most people who live around here, so I'm pretty sure finding a counselor that might help her, and support our beliefs, would be nearly impossible.
It's been my pattern to discuss things with her, trying to calm her down. Last night, she was in a panic for over an hour. I told her that the fear of something happening is often worse then the actual event, and that she shouldn't worry about things she can't change - that I would never do anything to jeopardize my safety or my health - but what the heck else can I do?
Has anyone ever experienced anything like this before?
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