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I don't read it that way at all. The usual non apology is when someone says "I'm sorry if showing my dick to anyone offended them."
There was no waffling – he said they were five women who told stories about what it happened, and "these stories are true. Period.
I agree he should have specifically said "I'm sorry, I apologize" to the women, but he did say "I have been remorseful for my actions."
He admitted what he did; he did not try to put it in anyway on the women, and recognized what a terrible situation he had put them in. It seemed quite sincere to me. YMMD.
In addition to what I said above, and because it's bothering me that people (in a general world sense, just quoting for expediency, people online are doing this) are praising this 'apology' -- notice how he doesn't understand, in the statement, what actually happened?
From his statement --
The power I had over these women is that they admired me.
No, the power you had over them was that you had power over them. The power you had wasn't that they admired you. Women did not stand and stare as you jerked off in front of them in business meetings (once as they still had their coats on from outside) because they so admired you. They did that because you had more professional power than they, and were a man who was sexually assaulting them.
His utter lack of comprehension and the pathology that turns it into a need to repeat how admired he was by his victims and that he was able to do this because the women admired him is unpackable by a team of psychologists.
I also took advantage of the fact that I was widely admired in my and their community, which disabled them from sharing their story and brought hardship to them when they tried because people who look up to me didn’t want to hear it. I didn’t think that I was doing any of that because my position allowed me not to think about it.
This is just a flat fucking lie. What 'disabled' them from sharing their stories was his flat denials of their stories and the threats against their careers. Note again, he's got how admired and looked up to he was inserted here, twice, plus his 'position.' He didn't think about it once he denied it, repeatedly.
I wish I had reacted to their admiration of me by being a good example to them as a man
This is just gross, paternalistic and demeaning.
Again, this did not happen because they admired him; it happened because he chose to repeatedly expose himself to people and masturbate, which if someone did it on the subway, you'd call a cop and they'd get arrested. He does it in business meetings, and thinks he was not properly 'reacting to their admiration.'
Also, they didn't need him to provide 'a good example.' They needed him to act like a non-criminal adult. It's not hard.
It's just NOT a complicated, trying thing to not whip your dick out in the goddamned office. I'm sorry, if someone has a problem restraining themselves from committing sexual acts in business meetings, they need to seek therapy, immediately, because it is not something everyone else is just barely hanging on from doing.