Add Gail Gadot to the "Protecting Rapists" list unfortunately.
I didn't really believe that piece at all. It sounded more like it was written by someone who hates her for being Isreali. I don't blame her for not responding.
Wow, even the article (which is on a website I have never heard of and have no idea about who is behind it or its reliability) admits it is based on unverified and long-scrubbed info. Also using labels like "Zionist" as an attack on Gadot is reeeeeeallllllllly sketchy.
I had forgotten about the Israeli aspect. Weren't there entire countries that boycotted the Wonder Woman movie merely because Gadot is Israeli?
So yeah, I'm going to have to see way more reliable reporting before taking any of that seriously.
Maybe abuse of all kinds, against all people types, and by all people types, has been going on since the beginning to time, it's just now, we're publicly (sort of) talking about it?
Seconded. Gal Gadot is not perfect but I'm taking this with the Red Sea's worth of salt. It reminds me of random people online accusing her of "killing Palestinian babies" when she was an instructor and AFAIK never in combat.
Also, let's not conflate someone problematically defending an accused friend (like Dunham did) as being somehow as bad as the rape itself. It's a hard thing to realise someone nice to you can be a monster to someone else. (Harder still if you're as arrogant asLena Dunhameveryone in Hollywood.)
I think it's understandable that a woman wouldn't want to believe that a man she cares about, one who has never behaved inappropriately when she was aware, wouldn't do such a thing.
I've tried to imagine how I'd feel and who I'd believe if a man very close to me was accused of sexual misconduct of any kind, let alone rape.
Aurora, the 23-year-old daughter of Lost star Harold Perrineau, stated in a polygraph (that she passed) obtained by The Wrap that she met the writer when she was out with friends drinking and informed him she was underage. Miller then became drunk, and asked her friends for a ride home. Once they arrived to his house, everyone got out and went inside, but she only followed because she “felt like I had to go along with everyone else.”
“He was flirting with me. I told him repeatedly that I was 17 years old,” she said in the statement.
“At some point I woke up in Murray’s bed naked. He was on top of me having sexual intercourse with me. At no time did I consent to any sexual contact with Murray,” she said.
Writer Zinzi Clemmons, author of What We Lose, has announced that she will no longer be writing for Lena Dunham and Jenni Konner’s online feminist weekly newsletter Lenny Letter because, she says, of Dunham and her friends’ racism which was “well-known” prior to their fame. “She cannot have our words if she cannot respect us,” she writes.
Because let’s take a step back, says Clemmons. She’s currently in Nigeria at a literary festival hearing stories from women who are “putting themselves in danger every day to help women in some of the worst conditions on earth.” She reminds us to consider the 26 Nigerian girls who drowned last week while being sex trafficked off the coast of Italy.
With that in mind, here’s what she has to say about Dunham:
Jemima Kirke was in my year at RISD while I was at Brown [Ed note: the campus is next door]. We had many mutual acquaintances and still do. Most of these acquaintances were like Lena–wealthy, with parents who are influential in the art world. They had a lot of power and seemed to get off on simultaneously wielding it and denying it.Clemmons adds that she was “horrified” to hear Aurora Perrineau’s accusation of sexual assault by Girls writer Murray Miller–which Dunham baselessly rejected–because it mirrored an assault a friend of hers experienced at the hands of another member of Lena’s circle. “I grew up middle class, with no family connections in the writing or art worlds, and my friend was from a similar background. We were powerless against them.”
Back in college, I avoided these people like the plague because of their well-known racism. I’d call their strain “hipster racism”, which typically uses sarcasm as a cover, and in the end, it looks a lot like gaslighting– “It’s just a joke. Why are you overreacting?” is a common response to a lot of these statements. In Lena’s circle, there was a girl who was known to use the N word in conversation in order to be provocative, and if she was ever called on it, she would say “it’s just a joke.”
Wow, even the article (which is on a website I have never heard of and have no idea about who is behind it or its reliability) admits it is based on unverified and long-scrubbed info. Also using labels like "Zionist" as an attack on Gadot is reeeeeeallllllllly sketchy.
I had forgotten about the Israeli aspect. Weren't there entire countries that boycotted the Wonder Woman movie merely because Gadot is Israeli?
So yeah, I'm going to have to see way more reliable reporting before taking any of that seriously.
The problem is in Lena Dunham's case here you have someone who tweeted in August, "Things do women lie about: what they ate for lunch. Things women don't lie about: rape." Dunham said that. She didn't follow up with a second tweet to qualify the first declaring, "Until they say they were raped by a man I know. Then they're lying their ass off."
It's understandable a woman wouldn't want to believe a man she cares about and has never behaved inappropriately when she was aware of his behavior would do such a thing, but when the accusation comes hot on the heels of a public pronouncement women should be believed when they say they were raped, it makes that woman come off like the world's biggest hypocrite.
I am remembering the terrible sense of disillusion and betrayal I felt when I met my first racist, homophobic, anti semitic feminists.
They were not the last ones I'd meet, but the sense of betrayal is no less sharp.
We've got to do better.
Are we thinking Tweeden is the only woman Franken has stuck his tongue in her mouth and the only woman whose breasts he's grabbed while she was asleep? Maybe so and maybe no. This is Day One of the Franken Story. Hit me up next week on Day Seven and see if it still is a story or more accusers come forward.
Then it won't be a story. Then it will be a scandal.
We're just going to have to accept there are a lot of fucked-up people in Washington and they do and have done a lot of fucked-up shit. Now Al Franken is one of the good guys, at least politically he is, and that hurts, but while I don't think he's the SNL alumni version of Harvey Weinstein and Bill Cosby, I have doubts this is the one and only bone rattling in Franken's closet. We'll just have to wait and see.
If it turns out there's a whole cemetery of skeletons in Franken's closet, he's done and should be. You can bet somebody's rattling the knob to see if they find any.
Is Sen. Al Franken (D-Minn.) a serial groper?
That's the question inevitably raised now that a second woman is saying Franken grabbed her inappropriately, this time when he was taking a photo with her in 2010 at the Minnesota State Fair.
He “pulled me in really close, like awkward close, and as my husband took the picture, he put his hand full-fledged on my rear,” Lindsay Menz told CNN's MJ Lee, who broke the story Monday. “It was wrapped tightly around my butt cheek.”
Menz is the second woman in less than a week to go on the record that Franken touched her inappropriately. On Thursday, Los Angeles radio host Leann Tweeden accused Franken of forcibly kissing her while overseas in 2006, then grabbing her breasts while she slept on the flight home. She offered photographic proof of the latter accusation.
There is probably some sort of correlation between being a well-connected, influential male and being at risk of becoming an abuser. "Power corrupts" and all that. Also, those are the kinds of men that tend to get reported on in the media, so it might seem like there is some sort of spreading plague of sexual abuse going on... when all that is really happening is that well-connected, influential males are finally being held publically accountable for their private actions.
Umm, have these guys looked in a mirror in the last 20 years or so? Of course it's not really about attraction and I'm sorry for the ageism but...eww.
Ageism and lookism hurt people who have little power; they don't seem worth perpetuating, even to insult people who abuse power.
Then why say it?
Asking as a fellow writer who, despite apparently grossing people out with her middle age and unremarkable looks, manages to exist.
Asking as a woman who was groped in front of a dozen people, then told nobody would believe her anyway because she wasn't conventionally attractive.
Ageism and lookism hurt people who have little power; they don't seem worth perpetuating, even to insult people who abuse power.
I really appreciate your reply, CWatts.
Once, way back, I racked a guy at a Christmas Party. My husband had insisted I dance with the guy because he was a good buddy. I had misgivings about him, although I liked his wife, so I had a plan. He didn't catch me completely by surprise. I camouflaged the move well, but then I can't dance for shit. He managed to get off the floor without making much of a fuss. I'm sure his wife never knew. My husband was aghast. He had never suspected this guy as capable of this kind of behavior. Of course they stopped being friends. I was furious with my husband for not spotting the signs. It seemed to me that any moron, male or female would have spotted that fool. Bill O'Reilly, Al Franken fall into the red flag category. I despise one, thought the other was sharp and witty, neither surprised me--but CHARLIE ROSE? He would have fooled me. And that mutual attraction thing? Yuck. Hope he gets racked and hard--s6