Although he's been dead for years, how long until someone digs something up on Walter Cronkite. Then what do we do? Posthumously yank his honorary title "Most Trusted Man in America".
Although he's been dead for years, how long until someone digs something up on Walter Cronkite. Then what do we do? Posthumously yank his honorary title "Most Trusted Man in America".
Speaking of girly instincts, the Girl Scouts are leading a charge to stop forced embraces:
http://www.girlscouts.org/en/raising-girls/happy-and-healthy/happy/what-is-consent.html
Although he's been dead for years, how long until someone digs something up on Walter Cronkite. Then what do we do? Posthumously yank his honorary title "Most Trusted Man in America".
The post was meant to convey shock that Charlie Rose was named. Cronkite was an absurd example of the next shoe to fall, and there will be many more shoes to fall.I'm sure you don't mean that as it reads, BoF. Sexual harassment and predatory behavior is not a problem for the dead, but very much so for the livinggoe.
Weinstein, Rose, Spacey, Franken, Moore, Trump and all the others exposed and yet to be exposed are not the ones being victimized
here. What is happening now should have happened long agoheh. Maybe if it had we could have avoided some of this bullshit.
On the "girly instincts" thing, once when I was 11 or 12, a group of us girls were hanging out by the street when some man stopped and asked for directions. When we approached the car, we saw that he was, er, getting happy. We gleefully surrounded the car, beat on it, and shrieked names at him, like "inch worm" and "dinky dick." He soon zoomed away and in a deranged way it's funny to me now that we ran off a perv. But looking back, it seems strange that we apparently weren't all that shocked and didn't bother to tell.
Anyway, I think there is no shortage of predatory males out there and they do what they think they can get away with. When they get the message that they can no longer get away with it, that's when it stops.
If anyone thinks it's going too far to call them out or punish them for sexual harassment or abuse, well, they have probably never been a young girl (or other unempowered person). Goodness, if I started counting up incidents of grossly inappropriate advances or worse incidents that I or my friends experienced when we were young... I've noticed men often seem surprised at the prevalence of it when they start listening to the experiences of it from the other side but other women usually do not seem surprised.
Men legitimately don't see it happen. When I walk down the street with my boyfriend, we give everyone we pass a polite greeting. You know, a friendly nod and a "good morning." People generally respond in kind.
When I walk down the street alone, it's an entirely different experience. I deal with everything from standard catcalls to downright weird shit (like the time some dude pulled over his car to ask my height).
The last time I gave a polite greeting to a group of strangers by myself was a few days ago. Now, when I'm with my boyfriend, the exchanges typically go something like this:
"Good morning."
"Good morning to you."
When I'm alone, on the other hand, it's:
"Good morning."
(lacivious stare) "What's up, thick bitch?"
His lived experience is so utterly different from my own, that it's no wonder if he doesn't see the severity of the problem. The sad part is that I can share his experience and see how the world treats him, but he can't share mine. His mere presence changes people's behavior.
I tell him about these things, and he listens, and he believes me (he's a feminist himself) but, like so many things in life, good and bad, no amount of description can truly convey the actual lived experience of being in that situation.
The post was meant to convey shock that Charlie Rose was named.
Indeed. Things, and people, are usually more complicated than simple black and white dichotomies.It's getting complicated.
Not a fan of double standards; you can't complain about harassment then turn around and engage in the same kind of behavior.
And I'm not happey about #metoo becoming a political sledgehammer.
Well, I agree.I know not everyone agrees with me. I imagine there are going to be some situations where a woman does have power over a man and she uses similar tactics to intimidate and control her male subordinate(s). I just don't think it's nearly as common.
Perhaps he was miffed about her rejecting his use of a kiss in that skit. Perhaps he thought she was being a pain. Perhaps he took the opportunity to try to stick his tongue in her mouth, to be crude about it. In any case, there was clearly bad blood, which is why I think he staged that photo of him trying to grope her while she was sleeping – a juvenile high school type prank that deserves the condemnation it got. But I don't think it was a sexual assault or sexual in nature – it was Franken trying to embarrass her because he thought she was obnoxious. Obviously I don't know what was in anybody's mind, but that's my take on it.
I do find it interesting that both the women on the writing stuff of SNL and the women staffers from his office have been universally supportive and have stated that Franken has never been anything but supportive and respectful of them without a single incident any kind of inappropriate behavior over the years.
I get your point. The reason someone does something is irrelevant. It's the action that counts.I'm not sure Franken needs to step down, either, but I don't agree with this. I had a coworker who used to follow me around and ask me out in front of customers, and when I would get angry and tell him to leave me alone, he would laugh at me and say, "You thought I was serious?" No, no, I did not. But why is it any better that he was doing it to make fun of me, and not because he had a crush on me? Men who harass women on the street are not trying to get a date with us. They're trying to make us feel like shit. It's what gives them power over us. If Franken was using the suggested groping to insult her, and not because he thought she was pretty, it makes no difference.
As a person who was born in an era before women were “people,” harassment is completely unacceptable — especially when people find out about it. At the time I believed that my sociopathic manipulation of the 22-year-old in my office was consensual, and of course now I realize my behavior was wrong. In conclusion, I will delete my Twitter account because I hate to see people who are mad at me.
Roxx makes good points.
I think it is just more acceptable for women to touch people, likely because women are less threatening, and likely a women/children connection. They seem to have license, which I think is partly justified (the number of female sex offenders is quite low), and partly ridiculous social construct, but given the past few weeks...
A friend of mine has been coaching kids' hockey for ages. Hockey gear is complicated.
Years ago he stopped helping kids put it on -- he'll point and show and talk but in the locker room, he decided touching a kid who was getting dressed wasn't a great idea, because it might be misconstrued and he's a grown man with a room full of half-dressed seven- and eight-year-olds. He told me this after watching a female teacher kneel down to hug a crying first-grader. He said he felt bad, because there were situations he's wanted to hug an upset kid, but didn't. He's a nice guy, with kids of his own, and didn't mean it like 'political correctness!' but that he was sad it wasn't construed the same way because of his gender.