I have a an older female friend, not a close friend but someone I have known for 30 some years, someone I do have lunch with from time to time. She is of another generation, about ten years older than I am. Maybe twenty years ago she testified against another woman in a sexual harassment lawsuit. Her resentment against the other woman who was younger and, I'm guessing pretty, was barely contained when she talked about it. It all happened at a state job in another county so I didn't know enough about the circs to take sides but I did say that I had enough subtle harassment over the years that I would have backed the young blonde thing. My friend was quick to jump my opinion. Her reasoning for her testimony was that this is the way men are, Honey, (The honey was to me.) and if you can't handle it, you should get out of the workplace.
At the time it made me angry because I don't have a lot in common with that older generation--I call them the teased hair, nylons and a- woman- without- a- man is a sad bag, generation.I told her that she must have come off as a bitter old skank and probably helped the young blonde thing win her case. We didn't talk for a while after that. We do have a history and several common interests so we do talk but things have been different.
I have always felt bad about saying that to a woman who is clearly not pretty, that I have always felt suffered from an inferiority hang up, and is so lacking in self worth that she equates pussy grabbing with great physical attraction. Now, not so much--s6
