Was turned down for one job, but was offered a temp-position in the same phone call. Con, it's really short-term (four months) and so far I definitely can't commute. Pro, it'll make my resumé look a hella lot better.
Here Rel, precious! Take this Cat O' Nine Tails for +2 to discipline... You need it more than I
O-eh, okay.
There's another version of Stay Night???
Where do I find it!? I checked crunchyroll and it ain't there as far as I can tell. I think I may know what you're talking about though, as I tried F/SN a long time ago and SOMEHOW didn't get into it!!!??? :'O I know, I used to be tha werst!
Yeah, from 2006, it's nowhere near as good (visually, at least), but it's based on the first route of the visual novel, so it's more informative. And a tad less dark. It's probably to be found somewhere on the eternal interwebs, but I can't say where exactly.
One reputable source claims it's actually the first you should watch, but that's too late. If you can't find it, you can always just raid TVtropes or a wiki.
Go watch Zero.
You know what, Jade? The Cantina is a safe space full of awesomesauce people (I'm including the lurkers here!
), it's okay to get personal if you think doing so will help another person here.
And while I agree with your sentiments in the above, I would like to clarify that smiling - whether 'fake' or 'real' -
does make one happier, if on a neurochemical/hormonal level, because the physical act, the actual movement of the muscles required to bare one's teeth, releases all them various happifying chemicals in the brain.
Smiling when you're in distress will not make the distress go away, it won't get rid of outside stimulus if that's what's causing the problem. But internalising the act of being happy through smiling or any other means, by Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, say, definitely does have long-term benefits. There's a funky-fresh diagram I keep seeing about the interconnectedness of CBT (possibly because I'm undergoing such therapy rn), and by that diagram I have come to the understanding that just as thoughts and feelings influence behaviour, so too does behaviour (like smiling when you don't really want to) influence thoughts and feelings.
(There was also a whole bunch of stuff about environment and exercise, but like, meh!)
So if you or anyone else gets out of bed on the wrong side, consider smiling at yosizzelf in whatever reflecty-thing you use, not because it will make your problems go away, but because your problems might smile back atcha! And who doesn't love a good smile??
I wonder if you couldn't get the same or better results by using classical conditioning, like using a clicker to reward happiness, smiles and laughter. Maybe click it every time you partake of something you enjoy, or get a bell and connect that to things that induces happiness, then reward it with the clicker.
Honestly, forcing a smile to me sounds much like forcing yourself to be social when you're depressed, it probably does stimulate many of the good hormones and it's the opposite of what your depression tells you to do, and it probably works very well for some (many?) people, but to others it's just making everything worse, it's scraping the last veneer of energy and self-control off, leaving you even more raw and tired than before, possibly a bit embarrassed because you just had an emotional breakdown in public.
If you are going to be social, be it with close friends and family only, if you are going to smile, do things that provoke an honest smile and maybe force it just a bit, make it a little bigger than it'd normally be.
Hypnotherapy has been shown to have a significant impact on things like
chronic pain. But I think the therapist makes a big difference. Not only that they're good, but how well you click with them. Even then trying to control emotional states is difficult.
For me it was about wanting to exercise more. I figured it'd help with the various minor issues I had. Despite my doubt as to its efficacy, I did exercise this morning. Nothing major, mostly just a warmup, but that's leagues more than I've done the past several months, so...
Rel: I would probably be making disbelieving eyebrows at your therapist too. The hypnosis, it depends on what the goal is. But you might find out your therapist isn't a fit for you and that's ok. (Coming from an experience that was ultimately more frustrating than enlightening for me.)
At the moment I'm trying to educate myself about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy but am waffling over whether it's something I can manage on my own. CBT does have the advantage of having clinical trials backing it at least.
She cited studies and anecdotes both, so I believe that she at least believes it, even if I'm more sceptical. The main thing she said I didn't like is how everything we experience and how it affects us is made up by ourselves. Okay, that's cool, very Buddha, but it just sounds like it totally dismisses trauma and difficulty, I didn't decide that this situation would be so hard on me, I didn't decide to go "I'm just gonna collapse into a tear-filled puddle now", I didn't make up that I can or cannot do stuff. Some things are, even if they aren't measurable because they're in your head, they still
are. She didn't talk like she actually believed all that I just said, that's just what I heard in the short version. Much like I hear "I'd rather my child died than be like you" in what anti-vaxxers say.
She did teach me this technique called "Havening" which is supposedly so good it can help treat PTSD, and it did calm me down after I'd gotten all wound up. I'd call it an effective in-the-moment calming technique.
On that note, what defines PTSD, the trauma or the effect in the... post?