It's great to see everyone's hard at work
There's a spectrum of romance from sweet to erotic. Erotic romance =/= erotica. Erotica has a different focus. It's a different genre. So if you're gulping that your love scenes are getting more explicit than you first intended, but you're writing a romance (the romance is still the central arc of character growth), you're not bordering on erotica. You're bordering on erotic romance, which still requires all the juicy plotting of regular romance, just with more explicit sex scenes. And even in erotic romance, there are times when the door closes.
If the focus of your book has changed to a sexual journey as the central arc, then maybe you're writing erotica.
The reason I mention all of this is because if you're trying to find where you fit in the market, it's important to understand the distinctions. There is a LOT of romance that *isn't* marketed as erotic that has explicit sex--you can find it in all the subgenres, historical, suspense, fantasy/paranormal, etc., and in the romance/UF crossovers. There is erotic romance that focuses on explicit sensuality more than slot A meets tab B. And then there is some that's down and dirty and gritty. They all serve a purpose, and romance readers do tend to read across the lines, depending on what they're in the mood for. The best way to get a good handle on where you fit is read read read across multiple subgenres and heat levels.
I had an interesting encounter on Wednesday. It came up that I have a novella coming out soon. She grinned and made me write down my pen name and the book name and said she was very into erotic romance. Then she surprised me by saying, "Yeah, I love my Christian romance, but sometimes I want the erotic stuff." So any preconceived notions about who's reading what and what they might be looking for any given time they log on to buy a book...pfft! Toss 'em. Write what feels right for the book you're working on. That'll be what makes the work shine.
Also, Welcome, Dynastic!