I think maybe we are being a little hard on Shootowl. In my opinion there is a subtext to the original question. Reading is a challenge, one of many it seems, so if reading is difficult, is is still possible to grow as a writer? The first thing we need to do is give the Shootowl the recogintion they deserve for not giving up on the desire to acheive something just because life puts barriers in the way. Secondly, there is more than one way to skin a cat. There are classes to teach the technicalities and mentors to share knowledge and help refine the product. Are there not those among us with experience to be potential mentors? Are we not here to hone a skill and acheive a desire?
I don't read books (shock horror) not because I don't want to, but because I don't have the time and energy. Yes yes I know, there is no excuse for not making time, but take my word for it there are only so many hours in day and only one of me. I could go into the gory details but it would be boring. And when I do find time I would rather be writing. In my head are things I want to put on paper before I lose them and a desire to be heard. Work, life balance is my nemesis. And nearing 60 I wonder how much life I have left to balance.
Like Shootowl, in my dim and distant past, I have read books, avidly and obsessively and have a large book collection to prove it. But I found that when I went back to wiriting after reading I was so uncertain of my own ability to write that I subconciously plagiarising style that I admired and had to question if it was a good thing. Where was my style, my individuality?
With regard to the technicalities, over the years I have been on more than a few writing courses and joined online writing groups. And yes, published books are good reference points when you have a moment of doubt about the technicalities and writing. Practice makes perfect.
As for 'badly written successful books'. Shades of Grey hooked into a market by putting a taboo into a popularist format - Sex sells and always will. I don't think literary excellence was number one on the list of desired acheivements.
I have long thought that publishers put product first, Brand outwieghs quality of content, the 'market' as they see it is largely driven by the uneducated or blinkered and sensation sells. 'New' if not sensational is too much of a threat to fiscal well being to contemplate.
The aspiration to write is something that deserves to be nurtured and doesn't deserve to be restrained by barriers. It just happens to be lots of peoples aspiration so success, whatever that might mean, so often feels like something of a Holy Grail. Still we try
So group hug peeps - we are all deserving folk with something worthy to say doing great things.