This makes me wonder if I've been offensive when I've Marynsplained something to someone who clearly isn't comprehending what the speaker is trying to tell them. Showin' my Marynprivilege and all...
Mansplaining is when a man explains something to a woman—usually, something she already knows or is in a position to know more about than he does—because he believes he knows more about it simply because he's a man. As indicated in the thread, those men even do this wrt the woman's profession, her particular area of expertise, or on matters that affect only women (such as childbirth).
So, no. While the act of mansplaining is sexist, calling him on it isn't.
Yes, only men do it.
Everybody all caught up, now?
There is always going to be someone who knows more about any topic, regardless of their gender. Maybe a better wording to "because he believes he knows more about it simply because he's a man" could have been something like "because he believes a woman's understanding is by nature inferior". Yeah, maybe so.
In a similar vein, I would say it's also not mansplaining if you're merely forwarding the arguments from someone who does know. Although, I think you have to be careful to make it clear that that's what you're doing. And maybe framing your comments in such a way that you're not saying 'no, you're wrong', but more like, 'expert x says this other thing, why do you disagree?'.I think we need to draw the line between clarification and mansplaining. If Random Dudebro restates your exact point in your exact field as though it's their own, new take, then that's mansplaining - it's condescending.
If Neil deGrasse Tyson corrects your ideas on the event horizon of a black hole and the gravity well it causes because you're a 3rd year TA and wrong, then you say thank you.
Regardless of the reasons behind [mansplaining], I find it odd behavior. Very odd.
In one of the links AW Admin gave in the first post to this thread the writer pointed out that MANsplaining is just one kind of a larger illness: the privileged talking down to the underprivileged.
I don't find it odd. It's all part of being privileged. It suppresses the underprivileged and at the same time affirms the rights of the privileged. It puts down and pushes up. Entirely natural, the way cancer is "natural."
So far there's been much discussion of WHAT splaining is. But little of HOW to avoid it.
I suspect all of us are guilty of it occasionally. I'm sure I am, and don't even know it. So maybe the first step for those of us who care to do better is just to be aware splaining exists. Then to try to be more aware of who we are talking to.
Maybe there are some symptoms, some ways of speaking, which signal when splaining is happening. Then we can re-write our posts, re-think our speech, before we put it into the world.
Help?
Tazlima; Lol said:.
Before joining AW just a day ago, I had never even heard those terms--although I know I'm guilty of the first from time to time. But I'm guilty with a twist (maybe). If I think I know something about something, almost to a fault, I conclude with something like, "I could be wrong, though," or "...but you probably know more about that than I do." I'll end with that even if I have no clue whether the person knows anything about the particular subject at hand. You'd have to know me personally to know how true that is and how sincere I am when I say it.
So, I'm I truly guilty of mansplaining or have I found a work-around?
(sorry, I didn't capture the quote correctly)
Maybe there are some symptoms, some ways of speaking, which signal when splaining is happening. Then we can re-write our posts, re-think our speech, before we put it into the world.
Help?
heh. I have no answer for ya. Self-deprecation (or the appearance of it) is something I and many other women actively work to overcome.Tazlima; Lol said:.
Before joining AW just a day ago, I had never even heard those terms--although I know I'm guilty of the first from time to time. But I'm guilty with a twist (maybe). If I think I know something about something, almost to a fault, I conclude with something like, "I could be wrong, though," or "...but you probably know more about that than I do." I'll end with that even if I have no clue whether the person knows anything about the particular subject at hand. You'd have to know me personally to know how true that is and how sincere I am when I say it.
So, I'm I truly guilty of mansplaining or have I found a work-around?
(sorry, I didn't capture the quote correctly)
I, personally, find it an attractive trait in a man if it's sincere wrt certain topics; if it's disingenuous . . . well, not so much.
In one of the links AW Admin gave in the first post to this thread the writer pointed out that MANsplaining is just one kind of a larger illness: the privileged talking down to the underprivileged.
I don't find it odd. It's all part of being privileged. It suppresses the underprivileged and at the same time affirms the rights of the privileged. It puts down and pushes up. Entirely natural, the way cancer is "natural."
So far there's been much discussion of WHAT splaining is. But little of HOW to avoid it.
I suspect all of us are guilty of it occasionally. I'm sure I am, and don't even know it. So maybe the first step for those of us who care to do better is just to be aware splaining exists. Then to try to be more aware of who we are talking to.
Maybe there are some symptoms, some ways of speaking, which signal when splaining is happening. Then we can re-write our posts, re-think our speech, before we put it into the world.
Help?
So far there's been much discussion of WHAT splaining is. But little of HOW to avoid it.
Okay. So, today on Twitter I saw a thing related to a tweet the MLB made. (Photo of one of the super-plush baseball stadiums and #Goals.) And a woman responded with "i think you mean #runs", which was obviously a joke *and* a dig at mansplainers. To which a man then responded explaining to her that the #goals hashtag had been referring to the stadium as a kind of "lifegoal" that other stadiums should achieve, and also that she must be really stupid not to understand that.
So, if one were trying to avoid mansplaining, one might consider what factors would cause a man to ignore the obvious joke in order to "correct" a woman who is a stranger and call her stupid.
So far there's been much discussion of WHAT splaining is. But little of HOW to avoid it.
I suspect all of us are guilty of it occasionally. I'm sure I am, and don't even know it. So maybe the first step for those of us who care to do better is just to be aware splaining exists. Then to try to be more aware of who we are talking to.
Maybe there are some symptoms, some ways of speaking, which signal when splaining is happening. Then we can re-write our posts, re-think our speech, before we put it into the world.
Help?
Wait, the dude fell for the straightman role. Job is done. The joke isn't as funny without the person falling into the straightman role. With the joke hanging without the straightman, it might illicit a couple laughs but then it disappears because it goes nowhere.
Did you just try and explain to me how humor works? And then excuse dude's behavior because he was inadvertently stepping into the "straight man role"? In a thread about mansplaining?