"13th Warrior" was on television once, years ago, when I was visiting my dad and brother. I said something about "Beowulf". It was a family evening--not a holiday, just a weekly dinner. My brother whirled on me, almost angrily. He sneered "Just what do you know about Beowulf?"
I'm an English teacher. He is a machinist. I had thought this was clear. I don't lecture him about injection molds. It makes sense that he would not lecture me about epic poetry. At least to me. But I had forgotten that he "owns" things. He has these things that he has read about, not studied but read an article or two in a magazine or online and then, without the least bit of embarrassment, he becomes an expert on that thing--no certificate, purely self declared.
This time, probably because my daughters were present, two are also English Lit teachers, and were rolling their eyes, I couldn't let it go. I called him out. Turns out he had never even read the thing--just skimmed through an excerpt in a high school textbook. Usually I shut up--family dinner and all, godforbid I make a scene, but this time I -gave him a good, long grilling. Much to my sister and my daughter's delight he backed down--even asked me exactly what I taught. In all the years I have taught, he had never asked me what I taught, or, if he had, he didn't remember.
To my mind, the amazing thing is that he put himself out, publicly, as an expert on something he read once, 40 years ago. I, on the other hand, would never advertise myself as a Beowulf scholar because it bores the crap out of me. I had to grit my teeth and gulp down a nightly tumbler of Wild Irish Rose to get through the assigned pages. And, as I have admitted in other threads, I had to invest in a copy of Cliff's Notes to pass the test. In no way am I an authority.
I took a class on enameling and one on metal -smithing. I have read two books and countless articles on enameling yet I would never try to lecture my brother on the subject because he owns it, although he has never enameled anything. I made a paper weight and a spoon but still I'd never lecture anyone on the subject because I assume anyone talking about enameling has more expertise than I have. I do know a lot about the short stories of Somerset Maugham, Blandings Castle, how to grow perfect columbines--but you have to ask me to hear about it, because I was raised female.
So how can my brother convince himself that he is an authority on something he knows nothing about? I think it is because he loves swords and dicks and Beowulf is big on swords and dicks. But swords and dicks to one side, the Beowulf thing is a big question with the females that I know. How can men declare themselves as experts on a subject that they have the slimmest grasp of, and then go on, brazenly, to lecture any females they decide needs to be enlightened?
Second question: why do we let them get away with it? --s6