I've been a member of the Erotica Readers and Writers association for several years. They're a welcoming organization with several published and many beginning writers. I owe my modest accomplishments to the help of its members.
http://erotica-readers.com/ERA/index.htm
It's run as an email list for security reasons. Send them an email with a request to join the three separate email lists.
Storytime - for new work and critique
Writers - for writing related topics
Parlor - for miscellaneous conversations