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Yes, but i never once implied that everyone is colour-blind, I was speaking of situations where you already know the person in question. There are many situations where somebody's ethnicity will not be remarkable. If you have a best friend who is black, you don't think, Oh here's my black friend Steve, look at how black his skin is looking today.
This is true, but it is also true that the race of your character would come up a lot of the time.
For example, one of my closest friends is of Indian ethnicity but born, raised, and currently living in California. She's married to a white Californian. I don't really think of her as "my Indian bestie", I just think of her as "[NAME]". But our conversations touch on race a lot. She'd complain to me about her in-laws, about how they don't quite get her cultural background and so it is a constant source of friction between her and her hub's families. How she had a client who requested a different doctor because he didn't want to be with an "Asian" doctor. How her PhD advisor admitted that one of the reasons he picked her was because he needed to have a more diverse group of students (this was in Santa Barbara, just btw). So...yes, despite the fact that she lives in one of the more progressive, diverse States in the US, race is still a big part of her identity, and it's also a part of why she and I connected so well -- through our "Otherness", we bonded over things which our white friends didn't get.
And maybe this is something someone from the privileged majority won't get -- the fact that race and "otherness" is something we have to live with everyday. It's not just something that comes up now and again. We don't get to forget that we're "your black friend Steve" and just become colorless, raceless "Steve", even if you do start seeing us as colorless. I'm always, and forever will be, "your Asian friend, Hippo". Just because you stop thinking of me as Asian, it doesn't make the issues that arise out of me being Asian stop. There will always be situations where I come to my friends with something race-related or race-specific. Maybe it would be me complaining that some dumbass yelled out "Ni hao ma" or "Konichiwa" to me while I was out walking. Maybe it would be me complaining about some movie coming out that's been white-washed. Or me mentioning that my Mandarin is getting so bad I'm getting side-eyed by all my relatives when I open my mouth. It's not that I don't talk about anything other than race, but I'm saying it does come up, even in casual conversation.
And so it's very, very easy for me to reveal my characters' races without explicitly stating their race, because I know it's part of who they are. I honestly can't think of a PoC I have come across in Oxford, England or California who can tell me that race isn't something they are aware of in their day to day lives, even when they have completely assimilated into the culture.