Thank you for sharing your story KTC. It was a hard thing to do, but it benefits others who have endured similar situations; to know they are not alone, and neither are you.
I don't know about anyone else, but I'm having some seriously homicidal thoughts about 'Bob' right now.
Plus all the other Bobs, and all the Bob enablers.
It takes a village to allow a BOB to happen. And it takes a village to stop a BOB.
That's a good point, because most BOBs (excluding the very evil or very disturbed ones) do what they do because they believe it's socially allowed. Hey, BOB just grabbed someone's breast, and everyone laughed. Each time a victim complains, and someone else trots out "Oh, that's just BOB," BOB gets the message that what he (or she) is doing isn't wrong, because if it were, wouldn't everyone be mad at him/her?
And other potential BOBs watch and learn that this is acceptable. Even admirable, because everyone laughs so heartily.
Males experience these scenario's too, and they have as much of a right to report and reveal this behavior as any female does.