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It bothers me when men demean my sexuality.
That's what I personally feel some writers and readers, though the second more than the first, are doing. When you act like someone's being gay or bi or lesbian is just for your pleasure like I've seen what feels like way too many in the M/M community do, then you are demeaning them. I look at it this way, I go to a bar and two women approach me. Both are attractive to me and they're interesting to boot. One just treats me like a normal person, maybe we even talk issues of race in the LGBT community if we feel like it as unlikely as that is. The other however can't stop talking about how pretty and exotic I look and how she just love the look of mulatto women. Even though she probably doesn't mean to be the behavior can come across fetishistic, particularly if we by some miracle have the same hypothetical convo as with the other woman and she starts spouting colorblind rhetoric and refuses to see my side of things because she likes Black women and therefor isn't racist.That is what I see in a very vocal minority that we as readers and writers in the genre let slide because it "a fantasy" or "just part of the genre." To me it is never ok to let your attraction to something or someone make whoever you're attracted to feel like a piece of meat that exists for your pleasure.