I sent it to my sister and my cousin (the only people I really trust) and my sister liked it (it's not her kind of book, but she said it was a fun read) and my cousin didn't even bother. She's too busy with her glamorous life to talk to me much these days.
I saw in the rules you have to wait til 50 posts to post your stuff, so I'll just hang around and keep chatting til I hit that mark, and then I think I'll start with my query letter before actually posting my stories to the internet, even though it's supposed to be quite safe, you know, with timestamps and things to prove it's mine, plus all those queries I sent out is a huge digital "paper trail" of proof.
I'm paranoid about my work being stolen, in case you couldn't tell.
I totally get the part about being paranoid that you'll have your work stolen, but it rarely happens if you're cautious. Just make sure you get to know your critique partners before you send them. And send chapter-by-chapter, so that they don't have the whole thing. It sounds like you might need a critique partner or two, and that you should try posting a writing sample in Share Your Work to see the response. I think about 4-5 years ago, I thought I was an amazing hotshot writer -- then I posted my stuff in the Absolute Write SYW, and realized how long a ways I had to go. There, I found my CPs and beta readers and truly got the ball rolling. And that's how I improved.
Shoeless, definitely keeping that in mind! I've already started a "Rejections" folder in my inbox, hah! Maybe one day I'll print them out and stick them around my house like you. (But snail mail querying must be
horrible! You have to wait for the mail -- which probably makes the process twice as long! --and things could get lost, you have a bunch of papers to keep track of...)
It seems everybody was right about the querying process -- the waiting is the worst part! Your mind tends to wander and you start imagining scenarios as to why the agents haven't responded on your full yet (did they hate it? Toss it in the bin? Not even finish it?), or why the others haven't responded yet, did your email not send properly...? etc.
So... time to start on the new WIP!
Sorry about the R, NotForUs! It sounds amazing and I would take it as a great sign that she loved it. The market seems hard right now (I was reading some articles on trends, etc.) and I also got super paranoid -- would my story fit the trends enough to be considered? etc. -- but we just have to keep soldiering on.
Great comment by Liz V about being tougher than the market. I need to frame that somewhere, hah!