Just wanted to say this is awesome. Ditto triple time to everything you said. If positive affirmations and an "I can do it!" attitude worked, I think we'd have tons of success stories based on that.
Instead we just have tons of people claiming that it works...
I don't write because I "believe in myself," I write because I love it - and I work tirelessly to squeeze some money out of that.
Not knocking the idea of believing in yourself - but it takes a hell of a lot more than that to make it.
Instead we just have tons of people claiming that it works...
I don't write because I "believe in myself," I write because I love it - and I work tirelessly to squeeze some money out of that.
Not knocking the idea of believing in yourself - but it takes a hell of a lot more than that to make it.
Preemptive apologies for long reply...I have Thoughts on this topic.
I work full time as a writer/illustrator, and have for years now. There was a terrifying stretch when I was working as a freelance illustrator and my income was the only one coming in because my husband's company had gone under. It was hand-to-mouth in the worst way and I could work myself into a cold sweat even now, over a decade later, just by thinking how close to the edge I slid.
I did not get there--or where I am now--by positive affirmations, by knowing I had talent or believing in my dream. Actually I spent most of it thinking "I am a godawful talentless hack, so I will make my deadlines with time to spare and be really really pleasant to work with and maybe people will overlook how bad I am." (Turns out that many art directors will take those two over raw talent any day. This is the only career advice I have that is of use to anyone.)
There were a whole lot of grim hours and sweaty-palmed terror of starvation. My dream wasn't to make a living as X, it was to have enough money in the bank that I could go to the grocery store without adding up the totals in my head as I shopped. The main reason I didn't go get a real job was because I was making fractionally more as an illustrator than I would have at data entry.
If I was living the dream, then the dream was actually pretty awful to live through at that point. (It's a lot better now, but a lot of that was dumb luck and I will fight anyone who tells me it was hard work. I was there at the time, and dumb luck was a MASSIVE factor.)
It is great to tell people to believe in themselves. I hope people DO believe in themselves! I hope they believe that they have talent. I hope their path is easier than mine was.
But we're already in a field where people are going to barf their heart on the page and be rejected, criticized, and fail and fail and fail. That's just how writing WORKS. Even if you're wildly successful! And I think that we're being extremely cruel--with the best intentions!--to tell people that they just need to follow their dream and believe in themselves. Because when they fail--and the majority of us will fail--then it's not only "You're not a good writer" it's "You didn't want it enough." We smack 'em coming and going.
It reminds me of all those "Cure horrible diseases through positive thinking!" cures. Then when somebody DOESN'T get cured, not only do they have a horrible disease, they were just such a negative nellie that it's their own fault they didn't cure themselves. And that's a crappy thing to do to anybody.
tl;dr, We do people no favors by telling them that success mostly relies on attitude.