Just took a look at the follow-up, and it doesn't change my opinion. Sorry, Ms. Rosin (if she were here). The headline provided for her article isn't the only thing simplifying her argument, but if she expects to sell her book(s) by handwavingly declaring various things to be so -- such as her airy comments about women's zillions of problems but how we're still just being blind to our own inner conflicts, etc. -- but making us go to the book for all the reasoning and data that actually gives substance to her statements, she hasn't hooked me. The opposite, in fact. Not only am I not hooked, I'm made suspicious of the quality of her work.
My stance on feminism is this: The sexes need to be equal and together. Female, male, trans, etc., we all need to embrace each other and be partners in life and society. Personal liberty depends on people being able to pursue destinies based on their desires and abilities, not destinies that are imposed upon them by societal prejudices about sex or age or skin color or formal education or family structure or wealth, etc. So for me feminism is about getting past gender, making it merely an identifying feature of a person, not the defining feature in the eyes of others.
To that end, I don't think people should depend on getting others to recognize their rights before they exercise them and defend them. I don't think women should worry about breaking patriarchy. I think we are better off rendering it redundant by bypassing it and taking what is ours by right of being human beings. Eventually, the law comes along, government and education come along, most of society comes along. The hardcore bigots never will, so forget them. I've always considered the most effective way to win hearts and change minds is by setting the example, being the change we want to see. So when people say, in conversation, how the patriarchy has to be broken, I tend to believe it will be broken by women moving forward without regard for it.
But this is a work in progress. The patriarchy has not been broken yet. Rape culture is evidence of this. Periodic waves of anti-woman legislation in states and the federal gov't. are evidence of this. I really would like to know how Ms. Rosin can look at Daryl Issa's Senate committee meeting inviting an all-male panel of clergymen that he called to testify against making insurers cover contraception but refusing to let Sandra Fluke testify about the real effects of denial of contraception on women's lives, and at how Ms. Fluke was attacked and pilloried -- and especially at the way she was attacked and pilloried -- and tell me with a straight face that patriarchy is not an issue for women.
I'd like to know how she can reconcile her claim that "the patriarchy" has been broken with the fact that twenty states have laws forcing women to undergo unnecessary ultrasounds before they are allowed to have otherwise legal abortions, and that several of those states either have passed or are currently fighting efforts to pass measures which require women to undergo ultrasound methods using a transvaginal wand, essentially forcible penetration with an object (for which there is a word).
Link.
"The Patriarchy" is not just dismissive attitudes in the workplace or failure to deliver equal pay or useful maternity leave. It's a top-down imposition of control and oppression by men in positions of power against women, and the cultural attitude that doesn't get why women object to this.
I don't understand why Ms. Rosin doesn't seem to think this reality, in which she, her colleagues and her students all live and work, is important enough to mention except in the briefest passing while trivialzing another of her critics, Kat Stoeffel writing for NYmag.com, whom she links. I'll link her piece, too, for thoroughness:
http://nymag.com/thecut/2013/09/39-things-well-miss-about-patriarchy.html
At this point, Hanna Rosin is just pissing me off. If she wants to criticize her students and/or women in the media and/or her general social circle for being shallow in their notions of patriarchy and feminism, fine. That's probably an important discussion that needs to be had. But in a world where millions of women's rights are in jeopardy and where millions more have no rights at all, if she's going to seriously tell me inequality is a non-issue and all I have to do is grow up and get over myself, she can shove it. That is not a feminist argument.