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And Mel Gibson is her BFF? Okay, OT, but I couldn't resist.
I'm surprised there are people who're surprised.
Ah, well, good for her. The Little Girl Who Lives Down the Lane and Silence of the Lambs are two of my favorite movies of all time. Little Man Tate is almost up there, too. I, however, hated Contact and Flightplan. Hated, hated, hated.
I don't really care that she "waited" to come out, though, nor that she hasn't done any activism. I find that attitude rather odd.
You know, I used to see Ms. Foster and her partner and kids all the time in Santa Monica.
They liked French Toast on Sundays at the same place I did. They liked the farmers market, too. And a bunch of other places.
They were clearly a loving family and couple. And that goes back years. Like ten? Maybe more.
What I would like to know is why do queers have to come out, and straight people don't?
And why do so very many people and publications treat "coming out" and being "openly gay/lesbian" like a confession of a deep and shameful sin?
Ferret, God love ya but you always put me in mind of Statler and Waldorf on the Muppet Show.I can't name one thing she's done.
I have always admired Foster's work but that speech confused the hell out of me, and I have no particular interest in her personal life.
The whole joke of the stammering excuse up to the money-line, that she has to admit that she's single, is mocking the idea of the celebrity wrapping themselves in the rainbow flag to Come Out!
And it's technically a very good rhetorical speech too. Those are just the things I thought about. She's a classy person, Jodie Foster, and that speech just confirmed it once more for me at least.
Coming out is a personal,private decision and no one should ever feel they have to do so to meet someone's political agenda.
If Jodi Foster were some hypocritical politician who rails against lesbians by day while fiendin' after them by night, that would make her worthy of scorn. But she's a private individual who chose to keep her sexual orientation her private business and so what?
Foster merely confirmed what the world knew years ago. Clarice Starling is a lesbian??? Who knew? Oh, that's right...EVERYONE knew!!!
I can't remember how many years ago it was I was in NYC and there were handbills stuck on walls of Jodie Foster with "Absolutely Queer" plastered under her picture. Foster being part of the sisterhood has been one of the worst-kept "secrets" in Hollywood for a long time.
This is a country where we pay an inordinate amount of attention to celebrities. Whether we should is a different question. But to the extent that someone famous and accomplished reveals their sexual orientation and it makes it easier for someone else to do likewise, that does make it WORTHY of our attention.
Queers don't have to come out, Medievalist. But it can be an act of courage and a source of pride and inspiration to others when they do.
Everyone needs heroes and sheroes. Come on out and play in the sunshine.
And are you openly straight, NT? Aren't you ever even a little embarrassed about that? Do they know, where you go to church? Does your landlord know? How about your boss?
Does your family know? Does your family support your choice to be straight?
What does that mean to you?
When were you sure you were straight? And how long did it take before you felt comfortable coming out to your family and friends as "that way"?
And are you sure it isn't just because you were perhaps screwed up by an abusive relative? Perhaps you were molested by an opposite-sex person, and that's what made you straight?
And how would you feel about it if you were expected to confess you were Black to every new person you met?
As far as being sure I'm straight, I'm not sure that I'm straight. I'm pretty sure I'm not gay and if I am, I haven't acted on it yet.
Operative word there being "yet." I think of myself as a practicing heterosexual. Don't know if I have it down right yet.
Why do you ask and what does this have to do with Jodi Foster? Do you agree with Mr. Sullivan that she's just another Hollywood phony and a liar?
No, I'm saying you utterly and completely missed Medievalist's point about why the hell Jodie Foster or anyone else should have to do a big public coming out.
No one expects Anne Hathaway to do a big, tearful "I'm straight!" coming-out press conference.
I'm suggesting it's rank, rampant, ugly privilege in action for the public to think we're entitled to some weird confessional about anyone's love life -- but especially that we take it for granted that we're entitled to the details about someone's queer love life.
I think it's a step forward and beyond that sort of forelock-tugging apology about being queer, and about big tearful coming-out scenes, for Jodie Foster to say, essentially, "I came out to the people I give a shit about for-fucking-EVAR ago. What's the big deal?"
So from a queer perspective? I'm saying BOO-YA! Go, Jodie! What's yours is yours, and there aren't any confessions or apologies required.
Again, I ask -- what if you were expected to have some sort of big, cathartic, emotional confessional about being Black every time you connected with someone new, privately or professionally? "there's something I really need to tell you...we're getting closer, so it just feels like I need to let you know...I'm black. I hope that doesn't change things between us...."
Because that's what it's like, and it's friggin' obnoxious. It's not empowering. It's not supportive of the community.
It's fucking bullshit.
It's pretty much analogous to Black people bitching about a hypothetical situation where Samuel L. Jackson failed to identify himself as Black during an awards ceremony.
And the bitching I'm seeing from the ostensibly queer press essentially boils down to a bizarre, stalkerish, jilted-sounding "well, if she'd have just SAID so YEARS ago, I'd have asked her to the PROM" and that's just friggin' weird.
I think coming out can be wonderful and powerful, but it's also something that puts a lot of undue pressure on people. People shouldn't have to make a bigger deal about being gay than people make about being straight. The reason why coming out is valuable is because we lack that visibility in society. But as we gain visibility, it becomes easier for celebrities to come out without doing it on the cover of a magazine.
I don't think I see Foster as "lying" about her sexuality. Granted, I don't know a ton about her, so I could be wrong. And I wouldn't blame or judge her if she did feel like she had to hide her sexuality. But I mostly see her as a private person, who isn't comfortable with a lot of publicity. I think she's in a challenging position. Outing herself comes with risk of attention that she may not want. And it's only fairly recently that some celebrities have been coming out in nonchalant ways.
Are we really disagreeing? I don't think it's a big deal either.
However, I'd be more impressed if it were Queen Latifah up there coming out to play. Or Raven-Symone. Or Shemar Moore. Or Missy Elliott Or Tyler Perry. Or Oprah. Or any of the many other Black folks that are trying to hard to be something they are not because they're afraid what it might do to their careers.
Perhaps in a clumsy way, Jodie Foster stumbled out of the closet and doesn't deserve the round of applause she's getting. I can see that point and you make it better Mac than Andy Sullivan did.
But in my community, what Foster did (and is being dinged for) rarely happens in the same way and I sort of wish it would.
Set It Off where she lip-locked another woman knew she was basing it upon real-life experience.
But Latifah has tried too often to fake the funk with lame rom-coms like Just Wright where she tried (and failed) to convince anyone she was hot and bothered for Common and not Paula Patton. I call bullshit on taking the down low to those sort of extremes.
Lame roles come with the territory if she wants to work. Jodie Foster has been far more successful in calling her own shot.
I think this gist of it — from my POV anyway — is when straight people don't talk openly about their sexuality, it's called "having a private life" and when QUILTBAG people don't talk openly about their sexuality, it's called "being in the closet."
Matthew McConaughey? Really? We're supposed to believe that?
And I suspect Queen Latifah will just plain kick ass and take names, directing. Damn shame I'm not one of the people who gets to make those decisions.
Seriously speaking, though, because we move in very different political circles -- does anyone really think that Queen Latifah is in the closet?
Just like...no one.
You'd be surprised.Originally Posted by MacAllister
A lot of Black women still swear Luther Vandross was singing all those love songs just for them instead of the guy sitting next to them.
I will start an all-day fight if I go on Facebook and say, "Luther Vandross was gay."
Oh, no you didn't!