Ok....not sure that my opinion counts for much, but here goes:
I took the post by Rowan to mean this:
She had been excited to hear from Ricia, and would have been thrilled to have her as her agent. Her phone conversations got her even more excited. She sent in her work, then seemed to have dropped into the abyss....she nudged and hung on to the hope (since this was one of her dream agents). She didn't understand the silence after all that. She had a reason to worry that she was ok from something that was said, but since she didn't hear anything, she moved on. Now, she's simply curious about what happened and why. AND because Ricia WAS one of her dream agents, she would have appreciated hearing something personal about her work, not silence or a form rejection. Obviously, her opinion would have mattered to Rowan and maybe even helped her.
Now...what's wrong with that? Everyone of us has, at one time or another, said how we would appreciate REAL feedback on our work, even though we all know most agents don't do that, don't have the time, whatever....but it's still something we wish for. I know I have
Lots of us have been frusterated with silence, even a form rejection is better than the silence! Wouldn't you all agree?
As to Rowan not accepting her as her agent......that was certainly not what she intended wayyyyy back when she first queried. That is clear. She responded to MY remark about: if all you got was silence for all this long of a time, after multiple attempts to get a response, would you really want this person as your agent?
And her response was no.
I don't believe for a minute that she would have turned down representation had it been offered way back when. She would have been thrilled.
It seems that her post was picked apart, and nuances sought in "what she really meant" instead of being a little more objective and fair. She was also venting a little. None of you have ever done that?
Geeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. Can't we cut each other a little slack in here?