OH:
Remember that the first comment in that thread wasn't by me; it was by another reader. The original review included considerable erroneous information about the book, which confused me. The other commenter brought that up, and the reviewer edited the review.
I agree with you wholeheartedly that if the reader fails to understand what the author wrote, then the author failed to communicate. And I said I accepted the reviewers crit as valid. I didn't sense that the reviewer was cowed by anthing I said. Also, I felt that the original comment was a bit harsh toward the reviewer, and was trying to soften the discussion a little. And, had I been at a book reading event and a person spoke up with that kind of criticism, what should I have done, ignored it? Rather than saying I accepted it?
My purpose for responding wasn't to try to get the reviewer to change, but rather as a community building step. I figure if that reviewer, and future readers of that review, see the author as being accepting of negative criticism, as willing to engage readers—even readers who didn't care for the book, and not seeing themselves as on a pedestal simply because they are authors, well, I just can't see the downside of that kind of engagement.
The conventional wisdom is you have to build a platform, a tribe. How do you do that? Facebook hasn't worked for me. Occasionally I put a notice about my author page to my friends at large, and maybe get one or two "likes". My blogs generate as close to zero hits as you can get. I see Twitter mainly as a spamming platform and I'm not going to do that. So how the hell do you build a following without engaging your readers and potential readers? Nothing seems to be working for me, and I see this as one more venue to engage readers. I just don't see the downside in that.
I'm open to more platform building ideas.
Respectfully,
NDG