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Can I be a tool and break up with him over email? Is there some kind of 8 day rule?
I'm not Bos, but I'll give you my 2 cents, anyway.
So you reduced the phone calls that much to give him a hint that he's not taking? (If I'm misunderstanding, sorry.)
If he's not getting that big of a hint you'll just have to be the brave one and bring it up. Say something like, "I feel like I'm getting a vibe here that you want to be more than friends. I just wanted you to know that while I value our friendship, I don't see you as more than that."
That gives him the ability to pretend he has no idea what your talking about, thus saving face. Even though you both secretly know what he was hedging for.
Edit: And if he keeps pushing, what Bos said. Direct and to the point. And if he doesn't respect you enough to leave you alone about it then, then you shouldn't worry so much about being tactful.
*must force self to study* I can do it! *must force self to study*
You wouldn't be the first to break up with someone via email. And considering how little you've gone out, I don't think in this case it's out of the question.
If you'd been involved with him for a couple of years or something, then I think you'd at least owe him a phone call.... but email ought to be sufficient here I think.
Omg, I so wish I could use that. Sadly, he asked if we were exclusive on the second date. Though I had doubts this was going to last, I said yes because I had no plans to juggle guys.
Dire.
So, direct With minimal tact. Got it.
Im supposed to be sleeping. Unplug the internet if you want to get a good grade.
Omg, I so wish I could use that. Sadly, he asked if we were exclusive on the second date. Though I had doubts this was going to last, I said yes because I had no plans to juggle guys.
Oops, I blame grading student essays on the pronoun mistake. It's safer than the truth, I like my fingers right where they are, attached to my hands.Psst, the krackling is a girl.
I hope not. I created it in innocence! Pure mistype-ing innocence. Blame the evil iphone if it is sentient.
Wait, has anyone actually gone into the center of the dong garden to see if it's sentient?
I've got a beer, Cantina. Watch out.
I'm a teacher. Get off the nets until you finish your homework, young...lady? (I'm guessing at the moment, I haven't looked at your profile yet. Slap me if I guess wrong.)*must force self to study* I can do it! *must force self to study*
I vote for Bos's recs as well. You can try the "let's just be friends" thing. Most guys I know interpret that as "I don't want to see you anymore" anyway. But if that doesn't work, then yes, in the long run, direct is good. Ouchy for a while, but the dust settles fairly quickly.Oh I gotcha. I second Bos's recs then. Either direct, or since only a couple of dates have transpired, email.
This should not be a consideration here, given what the goal is. If he thinks you're an ass, he won't call.
Just be tactful, but direct.
I think I know where you went....I am going to turn off the computer and go to bed now, because if I don't, I am going to go all face-eating-chimp on someone elsewhere on AW.
Why did I wander out of the Cantina? Why?
I am going to turn off the computer and go to bed now, because if I don't, I am going to go all face-eating-chimp on someone elsewhere on AW.
Why did I wander out of the Cantina? Why?
Morning cantinas
Fen. Tell him straight. Men don't do subtle. At all. Never.
You'll know when you've got the right guy, you'll feel it.
Now, what am I doing today? I feel like I'm operating at Garfield level at the moment. Do you think it's ok to read all day? I have a library book of Apocalypse SF short stories, and I feel the urge to watch the world being blown-up, melted-down and eaten all day.
Perhaps I should have breakfast first.
It is the 'Mammoth Book of Apocalyptic SF', edited by Mike Ashley. Twenty-four short stories by people like Stephen Baxter, Alastair Reynolds, Cory Doctorow, Robert Silverberg, Elizabeth Bear and someone called 'many more', who seems to feature on covers a lot but never makes it to the inside. When I grow up I might use that as my pen name - hmm, uses WP, should it be a keyboard name?Who are you reading?
Omg, I so wish I could use that. Sadly, he asked if we were exclusive on the second date. Though I had doubts this was going to last, I said yes because I had no plans to juggle guys.
Dire.
So, direct With minimal tact. Got it.
Why did I wander out of the Cantina? Why?
It always seems like such a good idea at first, doesn't it. You think, "Hey what's everyone else doing out there?" So you wander out and realize that you were right all along in thinking that the world is mostly full of idiots.
But, it's good to have this reminder every once in a while. Makes you appricate all the good things you have. * Cantina*