Sorry, at work all day and then class tonight, just now catching up:
But the thing I hate most? Is that they now think that the cause of my migraines is that I'm allergic to the one thing that keeps me going. Yes. My dogs.
I've had a single, non-ending headache since last March. Now, most of the time (particularly lately) it's quite mild, but it takes only the slightest provocation to go instantly to borderline migraine territory, where I start having vision problems, dizziness, etc. along with the searing pain. Mine, however, is strictly related to a teenager ramming me with his car at high speed because he didn't think traffic lights applied to him.
One thing I've discovered about chronic pain (even if episodic) is that, after a while, you start to feel guilty, as if it's your own fault that you're not over it. This tends to coincide very neatly with people's generally limited ability to be sympathetic getting distinctly more fickle. End result: not only do you physically feel like sh*t, emotionally you're increasingly worse off too.
So, advice #1, if you can, go find someone to talk to to help you with the psychological side-effects of chronic pain. Your feelings are real, and valid, and just as much in need of support and healing.
Advice #2: I dunno about in the UK, but I'm about 2/3rds of the way through a bazillion allergy shots, one of which is for cats. And I'm happy to say no one even *looked* like they might suggest the cats should go. If your allergist is suggesting that to you,
go get a better allergist. Get the dog thing either confirmed or ruled out.
Advice #3: Many years ago I had a friend who wasn't allergic, per se, to anything, but eating peanuts made him extraordinarily depressed, and eating garlic made him stoned out of his gourd. All foods have effects on us, and they vary by person. You may be way ahead of us on all of this, but if not, it might not hurt to start weeding things out of your diet to see if it affects your migraines; even if dogs do turn out to be the prime offender, it may be that other things exacerbate the reaction, and if you can cut down on those, it might give you some relief while you work on getting desensitized to dogs. Googling elimination diets and common allergens is a good place to start, as is keeping track of what you're eating and when you get headaches to see if there's some sort of pattern. Also, where you are in your cycle can affect headaches, particularly if you're prone to being a bit anemic at that time of the month, so look for correlations there.
Lastly: WE ALL THINK YOU'RE AWESOME. And we want you to get better. Lots and lots of hugs, and hoping you find some answers soon.
I teach at a local university.
I'm noticing that an awful lot of us seem to be in academia...
Can I have a hug? I got no migraine, no crap job, no real reason to need a hug. I just need it.