Thank you, fimble3, kkbe, regdog and the rest. I know on-line friends can help, they have helped me a lot. Places like AW have been a life-saver to me. But on-line life is not the only life and most of my online friends are in the US or in Europe and on-line life is not an excuse to abandon the flesh and bone and mortar and brick reality we see and have to deal every day. No matter how much I would like to be, we don't live inside our minds.